"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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verysuave

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From what I noticed, most replies on this board are 90% flaming and 10% are actual good helpful ones.

I think if you are going to reply to someone's problem, the way to go about is to give the person in that bad situation THE BEST possible solution or way out of it instead of bringing that person down. I'm not just speaking for myself but to other people on this board.

People who are asking stupid questions such as but not limited to: "does she like me" then yes, I think that person deserves flaming.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There used to be a prominent, and obvious, link to the DJ bible on every page of the forum. Now this link is hidden on the bottom of the forum pages and nobody can see it unless they are looking for it. THE BEST possible answers are likely to have been covered in that link but nobody reads it anymore. That is the fault of the admin here who would rather put up money making links and not be proud of the free information that has flowed through this site.

I agree that there is too much negativity on this site, but at the same time there is too much redundancy in threads. Anyone who wants to know the answer to their questions can use the search function to find similar topics. Most of the time the threads on the main forum just show how little experience guys on here actually have. If being heartbroken by a girl that they dont know is such a huge deal imagine when they get married, have a kid or two, and there wife decides to leave them out of no where. This board is so dramatic over non-issues that it has no idea how to deal with real issues most of the time.

Guys who ask what a DJ would shift into at 33 mph in a 5 speed have no idea what life is about let alone being an independent man. They should be flamed.
 

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I think if you are going to reply to someone's problem, the way to go about is to give the person in that bad situation THE BEST possible solution or way out of it instead of bringing that person down.
totally agree, some of my posts are pretty rude and vulgar and i think I lose the ability to properly communicate with others (i hate that).
 

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Oh yes, lets not include the constant struggle for Trolls to survive when they keep getting killed off. That makes up for err...80% of the crap like the above.

Umhmm..

I disagree somewhat though. If the poster is acting like a complete tool, or it's a simple answer, they NEED to be beaten over the head. If I had a baseball bat and I cracked it over your foot everytime you said 'like', you'd learn to stop real quick. Same analogy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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OP, I disagree with everything you said. This forum is for helping to make men. What it is NOT for is holding hands arround a campfire and singing folk songs.

You may not believe it, but sometimes a good kick in the ass is a good step forward. I think if you get whiny and can't handle being made fun of, then you really need to go see a doctor to get your testosterone levels checked.

I'll give you a peice of advice. If you take everything personally and expect everyone to sing James Blunt songs with you, then you my friend are in for a long, long ride.
 

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I agree with the original poster. There's just way too much BS on this site. You can't post anything without most people insulting you.
 

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SharinganUser said:
OP, I disagree with everything you said. This forum is for helping to make men. What it is NOT for is holding hands arround a campfire and singing folk songs.

You may not believe it, but sometimes a good kick in the ass is a good step forward. I think if you get whiny and can't handle being made fun of, then you really need to go see a doctor to get your testosterone levels checked.

I'll give you a peice of advice. If you take everything personally and expect everyone to sing James Blunt songs with you, then you my friend are in for a long, long ride.

You can give someone a kick in the pants without insulting and degrading them. I see a lot more insults than actual helpful information here. Maybe this site initially started as a way to help guys with girl problems, but it's turned into a flame board. Most so-called "DJ's" here are probably nothing of the sort. They just like to get their kicks by making fun of people with legitimate problems. I'm done with this site.
 

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Puh-lease. Spare me. The only person that is responsible for how you feel, is you. If you get offended, it is because you let the insult get to you. Real men don't let other people control them. So when a couple of morons type something that you don't like, and you decide to stop coming here, you are in fact letting them have control over what sites you visit.
 

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SharinganUser said:
Puh-lease. Spare me. The only person that is responsible for how you feel, is you. If you get offended, it is because you let the insult get to you. Real men don't let other people control them. So when a couple of morons type something that you don't like, and you decide to stop coming here, you are in fact letting them have control over what sites you visit.

It's not just a couple of guys. It's most of the people on this board. I'm not letting anyone control me. I'll go to any forum I want to, and I'll leave when I want to. "Real men" don't have to put other people down to make themselves feel better.

There's so much disinformation on this site it's not even funny.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yes you are being controlled. Cowardly even, instead of standing up to these idiots, or ignoring them you run away.
 
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