How often to text with a woman? The debate for 2025

[SW15]

I don't think you can get away with minimal, logistics-only texting, especially with gen Z women.

Why don't you think that? I have less experience with Gen Z women. I'm an early Millennial and almost all my experiences have been with Millennials. The oldest Gen Z's are 14-15 years younger than I am. That's quite an age gap and not easy to get.

The oldest Gen Z's turn 30 in 2027. That's not far away.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Which is exactly why I rhetorically asked earlier in the thread, "I guess a better question would be what to text them when you initiate or when they reach out just to keep them coming back for more."

"Value" is extremely ambiguous since what’s valuable to one person might be meaningless to another. So the real challenge isn’t just about providing value, but understanding what kind of value actually resonates with that person, especially in the context of seduction. After all, a synonym for seduction is pleasure, so the real question becomes: what can you send that is genuinely pleasurable?

More important is to eliminate things that hold no value which are very obvious such as texts like "Hey" or "WYD?" or "What's up?"

The majority of guys probably send 50-60% or more of texts that have absolutely no value, and those are very easy to see and eliminate, which would then improve the ratio of value to no value texts immensely.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Why don't you think that? I have less experience with Gen Z women. I'm an early Millennial and almost all my experiences have been with Millennials. The oldest Gen Z's are 14-15 years younger than I am. That's quite an age gap and not easy to get.

The oldest Gen Z's turn 30 in 2027. That's not far away.

Gen Z grew up on phones. If you text them too infrequently their ADHD brains will lose interest and move onto the next stimulating thing. You're not just competing with other men but all the other bullsh!t on their phones. You can literally just send funny memes or something you don't really need to do much, just offer some sort of value.

 

[SW15]

Gen Z grew up on phones.

That's a good point about Gen Z. Smartphones were introduced while the older ones were in elementary school.

A lot of Millennials got their first phone before the iPhone was released in 2007. A lot of Millennials didn't have their first phone as a smartphone. Some had more basic phones as their first phone and it wasn't until high school or after age 18 that they got their first cellular phone.

In the 2008-2012 era (a time when smartphone adoption was growing), Millennials were leading the charge on this. In that time, Millennial women were getting smartphones and then expecting men they were interacting with the mating environment to also have smartphones. Circa 2010, it was a demonstration of lower value to still have a basic phone.

While this was going on, Gen Z was still in earlier childhood.

If you text them too infrequently their ADHD brains will lose interest and move onto the next stimulating thing. You're not just competing with other men but all the other bullsh!t on their phones. You can literally just send funny memes or something you don't really need to do much, just offer some sort of value.

With Millennial women, the biggest concern I've had is competing with other men.

It's been possible to say that there's competition for attention with other crap on the smartphone even about women born between 1984-1989 since the early 2010s.

I prefer to limit my texts and to arrange dates as soon as possible. For instance, if I meet a woman at the grocery store on a Sunday afternoon, I would like my date with her to be no later than Wednesday night. I don't want to have to think about interim texting. It would be ideal to have either a Monday or Tuesday night first date in that scenario.

It is tough to compete with so much crap on the phone.

 

[zekko]

How often to text? My answer would be as much as you want, no more, no less. Unless you are heartbroken and drunk at two in the morning and your judgement is severely impaired.

 

[jhonny9546]

Am i the only one who don't use textingso much or at all?

 

[BadBoy89]

It depends on how old the women is.

If she under 25, I would love bomb her through text. Do not let her out of your sight. She has value and your goal is to get her pregnant. Text every single day if not more.

If she 30 and over, do not text. She has to take lead.

If she between 25-27, 85% you, 15% her.

If she between 28-29, 15% you, 85% her.

How a man should act towards a woman depends on her youth.

 

[BaronOfHair]

It depends on how old the women is.

Yeah... Once they get to be a certain age, chances that a large percentage of their waking hours are devoted to the pursuit of additional education, such as

And are thus unable to respond to your texts, becomes increasingly likely

 

[Barrister]

Text her as often as you like - within reason. And really it’s the content of said texts. “Double” and “triple” texting isn’t a big deal so long as you’re being charming and not needy and not writing her novels. Asking her “wyd” or “where are you” or even worse sending a “good morning” or “good night” text are all no-nos in early stage dating. You are not in an LTR - so don’t act like you are.

Be smart about it and don’t worry about following stupid rules like “wait 72 hours to text after the date” nonsense. That gets you into trouble more often than it helps. Be normal, but confident and charming in your text game.

 

[darksprezzatura]

As often you want to