"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How often to date same girl?

wonderer

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Hi All,

Just wondering how often is a good time to be dating the same girl, date once a week? went on a date with a girl two days ago, and will be scarcely texting in the lead up to the next one but just wondering when that should be, do you do a few days in-between?

I am spinning other plates too.

Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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wonderer

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Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot
 

Yewki

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No rules. See her as much as you want.
I definitely don't advise this. If OP doesn't know what he's doing, then doing what he wants isn't a good idea.

Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot
Yes, strike when the flame is hot during the date. But in regards to contacting and scheduling dates, you want her to value your time. You want her to value you. Guess what happens if you're overly available? Your value lowers. Sorry that's just the way it is. As much as we'd like to contact a girl whenever we feel like it, we should respect basic human psychology. This involves playing "the game" to some degree

In general I would not recommend more than one date per week. Even if she seems highly interested and responsive, making her wait can do wonders and is something every DJ should practice.
 

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I do as often as I want if she has the time. If a woman doesn't want it that often she's not a woman for me. If she claims to want it but on most occasions don't have time she's not a woman for me.

Trying to make it together every day is unrealistic, unless none of you have a life. Less than once a week I consider too little, especially if the delay is on her part I assume she's too busy for anything or not interested enough. Anything between that is fine by me, I'd want to see someone I like a lot as often as possible and so would a woman.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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