"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How often to date same girl?

wonderer

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Hi All,

Just wondering how often is a good time to be dating the same girl, date once a week? went on a date with a girl two days ago, and will be scarcely texting in the lead up to the next one but just wondering when that should be, do you do a few days in-between?

I am spinning other plates too.

Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wonderer

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Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot
 

Yewki

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No rules. See her as much as you want.
I definitely don't advise this. If OP doesn't know what he's doing, then doing what he wants isn't a good idea.

Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot
Yes, strike when the flame is hot during the date. But in regards to contacting and scheduling dates, you want her to value your time. You want her to value you. Guess what happens if you're overly available? Your value lowers. Sorry that's just the way it is. As much as we'd like to contact a girl whenever we feel like it, we should respect basic human psychology. This involves playing "the game" to some degree

In general I would not recommend more than one date per week. Even if she seems highly interested and responsive, making her wait can do wonders and is something every DJ should practice.
 

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I do as often as I want if she has the time. If a woman doesn't want it that often she's not a woman for me. If she claims to want it but on most occasions don't have time she's not a woman for me.

Trying to make it together every day is unrealistic, unless none of you have a life. Less than once a week I consider too little, especially if the delay is on her part I assume she's too busy for anything or not interested enough. Anything between that is fine by me, I'd want to see someone I like a lot as often as possible and so would a woman.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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