"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How often to date same girl?

wonderer

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Hi All,

Just wondering how often is a good time to be dating the same girl, date once a week? went on a date with a girl two days ago, and will be scarcely texting in the lead up to the next one but just wondering when that should be, do you do a few days in-between?

I am spinning other plates too.

Thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wonderer

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Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot
 

Yewki

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No rules. See her as much as you want.
I definitely don't advise this. If OP doesn't know what he's doing, then doing what he wants isn't a good idea.

Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot
Yes, strike when the flame is hot during the date. But in regards to contacting and scheduling dates, you want her to value your time. You want her to value you. Guess what happens if you're overly available? Your value lowers. Sorry that's just the way it is. As much as we'd like to contact a girl whenever we feel like it, we should respect basic human psychology. This involves playing "the game" to some degree

In general I would not recommend more than one date per week. Even if she seems highly interested and responsive, making her wait can do wonders and is something every DJ should practice.
 

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I do as often as I want if she has the time. If a woman doesn't want it that often she's not a woman for me. If she claims to want it but on most occasions don't have time she's not a woman for me.

Trying to make it together every day is unrealistic, unless none of you have a life. Less than once a week I consider too little, especially if the delay is on her part I assume she's too busy for anything or not interested enough. Anything between that is fine by me, I'd want to see someone I like a lot as often as possible and so would a woman.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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