"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How often do you see your GF?

The_Reaper

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On average? Every day? 2-3 times a week?

I heard David D saying to only see her twice a week, but I suppose he was referring to the attraction phase, not the relationship.

Does "the heart grow fonder" with absense? From my own experience, it does, but you have to strike a balance. Not too much absense. But definitely if you see someone every single day you inevitable begin to take the person for granted. Anyone agree?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hitman10000

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You only hang out as frequently as how close you. If you are intimately close to each other, you definetely want to see each other as much as possible. But if you aren't, you should see her as least as possible till it reaches the stage where you both are comfortable with each other. Relationships can't be forced, and there are no techniques no matter what "seduction gurus" tell you. if she doesn't feel you..yet or not then it will never happen.
 

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As a rule I only spend friday-sunday with a girl when I'm in a relationship with them. My last LTR was like this for 4 years, it gave me the freedom to do what I wanted during the week and then...well, what ever I wanted on the weekends as well because I wear the pants :D I think it is quite healthy to have some distance between you until things get really serious and you get engaged or married then you should probably move in together or something...but only if you want to ;)
 

Tau

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There's no one rule that works for everyone. It depends on what you want, what she wants, your relationship, what's going on in your lives, etc etc. Just do what seems right for your particular relationship.
 
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