"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How often do you see your GF?

The_Reaper

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On average? Every day? 2-3 times a week?

I heard David D saying to only see her twice a week, but I suppose he was referring to the attraction phase, not the relationship.

Does "the heart grow fonder" with absense? From my own experience, it does, but you have to strike a balance. Not too much absense. But definitely if you see someone every single day you inevitable begin to take the person for granted. Anyone agree?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hitman10000

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You only hang out as frequently as how close you. If you are intimately close to each other, you definetely want to see each other as much as possible. But if you aren't, you should see her as least as possible till it reaches the stage where you both are comfortable with each other. Relationships can't be forced, and there are no techniques no matter what "seduction gurus" tell you. if she doesn't feel you..yet or not then it will never happen.
 

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As a rule I only spend friday-sunday with a girl when I'm in a relationship with them. My last LTR was like this for 4 years, it gave me the freedom to do what I wanted during the week and then...well, what ever I wanted on the weekends as well because I wear the pants :D I think it is quite healthy to have some distance between you until things get really serious and you get engaged or married then you should probably move in together or something...but only if you want to ;)
 

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There's no one rule that works for everyone. It depends on what you want, what she wants, your relationship, what's going on in your lives, etc etc. Just do what seems right for your particular relationship.
 
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