"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How often do you meet girls/women you like?

Belmar2009

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WHat I mean by like: You not only find her physically appealing, but you like
her personality and there is a strong chemistry between you two.

(e.g. You don't just see her as a hook up, but someone you want to spend time with)

The reason I am asking is becuase it seems I only meet women I have that strong attraction to like once or twice a year. The last one being like 7 months ago.

I mean, plenty of girls are physically attractive but alot of them are either *****y, psycho, sloppy drunk, gold diggers or just plain airheads.

I go out in decent amounts, but it seems hard to meet a chick you really connect with.

Is it just me?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nutz

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So far maybe 2 or 3 in the last 2 years. I've met hundreds of women in that time, maybe thousands, and only 2 or 3 really caught my attention for serious potential. What's that say about women in general these days?
 

Georgey

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belmar that completly normal. u just have fun meeting and dating. but in the end, u do all that to find the one u dream of. but u watch out u dont get heart broken whoever she is.
so yea u meet hotties all the time. but the one ure really into... happens once a year or 2
 

women haze

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...............It sucks when you meet someone you dig and they don't dig you in return. Happens to me a whole lot, and I'd have to say that the only time I felt anything that MIGHT be love was my first love.
 

Deniska

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I think i have met 3 such women in the last 4 years.

On the other hand, ive met many women with great personalities, but i had zero physical atraction towards them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nygard

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As in talking to them and knowing them better? Hmm. Maybe 3 or 4 in my whole life. Might be a little more.
 

Allurre

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It's a numbers game bro. The more you're out there, meeting more women, the more likely you'll find one that fits you more like a glove.

Then again, you can say luck is a variable.
 
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