"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How often do YOU get approached?

Borknagar

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How often do the tables get turned on you guys and the women comes to you? Just curious, cause even though I've had my ****ty luck, usually at least once they come up to me, last night right when I showed up a chick, came up to be cause she remembered me on my birthday I guess I went up to her, drunk off my ass and started kissing her? hahaha didn't get any grief from her but I could tell she was entertained by it. she was pretty hot(8-9), but was quite occupied by her friends.


Thursday night, I was out to a dead ass bar with hardly any chicks and i literally had a chick come up to me and say "I like you, you're coming home with me", she was clearing drinking more than I was(only had a beer.. driving and all) plus right away her friend was like NOOOO hahaha
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Mr Wright

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I say ive only ever been approached once and that was a pretty unique situation because i was at an event full of girls and i was like one of 20 guys out of 200 girls. But other than that, pretty much never. Even the most receptive ones dont approach.
 

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The girls almost always initiate when you are having a good night. They make it easy for you when they like you. They'll say something like "I like that shirt" or "you are tall".
 

Rogue

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I was approached last night, and made good on the opportunity.

Chicks can be very subtle in how they approach and cloak themselves in plausible deniability. If any chick walks up to you and says anything to you, like asking you for the time, it's good to assume it's just an excuse to hit on you. But, here's the real kicker: once they approach, you must take the lead of the encounter. If you don't, they will jet.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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disgustipated

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I have a theory on this. It's that women in general are HORRIBLE at coming on to guys or "picking up" like we do, conveying interest to the point where we pick up on it. Mostly because they never have had to practice.

I try to put myself in their shoes when I fail horribly at making conversation with a chick I'm attracted to and look for the same awkward type things from them. Like stupid, awkward compliments or asking a lot of questions about the other person. These are more subtle ways of showing interest or being approached. Not everyone's going to make it so obvious or be so good at approaching the other sex. We see this in guys but also the same has to apply for women because they practice so infrequently.
 

r0cky

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I get approached once or twice a month. Even tho I go out 3x a week. Most of the time they're below my standards. But when they do meet my standards... ****ing awesome.
 

synergy1

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at least once a night for every night I go out. if I go to boston, its more frequent than that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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