jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
How often did women openly express their interest in you, either in person or through DMs? (I don’t mean subtle hints, jokes, or IOIs, but situations where she directly said she was interested.)
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'll answer your question this way:How often did women openly express their interest in you, either in person or through DMs? (I don’t mean subtle hints, jokes, or IOIs, but situations where she directly said she was interested.)
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've said above tho exclude those subtle ways.in all those typical subtle ways
Direct or Indirect things?When I did would, at least weekly, get some girl DMing me.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Not the way women typically communicateBut what about "direct" things
Direct or Indirect things?
Like "Hey I really Like you"
or "Hey, that dress look cool"
Similar to IRl.I've said above tho exclude those subtle ways.
I think that a man receive a lot of subtle things and we miss.
But what about "direct" things
Direct or Indirect things?
Like "Hey I really Like you"
or "Hey, that dress look cool"
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Becoming a more INDIRECT communicator, then hoping that'll get the panties dropping, makes less sense than showing up to a bris ceremony equipped with sand paper instead of an itzelI'm still a good direct communicator, but a terrible indirect one.
How have you improved it?