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How not to fall into the trap??

Hockey Playa

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Hey you know the feeling you get when you know you got the girl, and you start liking her, and you start turning total AFC, like overanalyzing conversations, constantly thinking about her....Btw dont reply with keep busy, cause i am very active, but you know you always have time to daydream. Basically im asking is their anyway not to fall into total AFC mode, get my mind off of her
 

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Hey man, I've had this problem before and it's not easy. Keeping busy is on the right track, but sometimes, its not enough. I found that by doing NEW things and developing NEW habits, I can get my mind off of things much faster. Get involved in something out of the ordinary - go volunteer for a week, organize an outing with friends, something that can occupy you mentally as well as physically. Goal is to not have HER be the focus of your life. Easiest way is to focus - completely focus - your life on something else.

Good luck bro! Hope it works out.
 

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The ultimate solution to this problem to find a passion that puts you in the position to not even need a woman in your life. This could include a business, hobby, or something that you're inspired by. This takes awhile though.

Let me give you a little example. I met a girl my first semester in college and totally fell head over heels for her. Now, I didn't have a job, nor any hard classes so all I really thought about was THAT GIRL. Eventually, I noticed I was being needy and snapped out of it.

I started my own promotions business up. Not only was I making bank, but I had something to do during the day. Believe it or not, I almost forgot about the girl! The girl of my dreams per say, I forgot about. She went absolutely crazy, and to my surpise, I was having no problem being myself around her.

Ok, so that's a longterm fix. The only quick fix for now is to keep reminding yourself that you DON'T want to come off as a wuss, and you want to come off as a man whos on top. If you lose your stance one bit, she may flake and go for someone with higher standards. If you keep this in mind, trust me you'll rarely let yourself fall for her. While your busy telling yourself this, FIND A PASSION!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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