"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey you know the feeling you get when you know you got the girl, and you start liking her, and you start turning total AFC, like overanalyzing conversations, constantly thinking about her....Btw dont reply with keep busy, cause i am very active, but you know you always have time to daydream. Basically im asking is their anyway not to fall into total AFC mode, get my mind off of her
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hey man, I've had this problem before and it's not easy. Keeping busy is on the right track, but sometimes, its not enough. I found that by doing NEW things and developing NEW habits, I can get my mind off of things much faster. Get involved in something out of the ordinary - go volunteer for a week, organize an outing with friends, something that can occupy you mentally as well as physically. Goal is to not have HER be the focus of your life. Easiest way is to focus - completely focus - your life on something else.

Good luck bro! Hope it works out.
 
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The ultimate solution to this problem to find a passion that puts you in the position to not even need a woman in your life. This could include a business, hobby, or something that you're inspired by. This takes awhile though.

Let me give you a little example. I met a girl my first semester in college and totally fell head over heels for her. Now, I didn't have a job, nor any hard classes so all I really thought about was THAT GIRL. Eventually, I noticed I was being needy and snapped out of it.

I started my own promotions business up. Not only was I making bank, but I had something to do during the day. Believe it or not, I almost forgot about the girl! The girl of my dreams per say, I forgot about. She went absolutely crazy, and to my surpise, I was having no problem being myself around her.

Ok, so that's a longterm fix. The only quick fix for now is to keep reminding yourself that you DON'T want to come off as a wuss, and you want to come off as a man whos on top. If you lose your stance one bit, she may flake and go for someone with higher standards. If you keep this in mind, trust me you'll rarely let yourself fall for her. While your busy telling yourself this, FIND A PASSION!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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