greatsnake
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most of us have been through that path. The most important thing is to realize what's going, change for the better and never look back.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
how my nice guyness somewhat ruined my life
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sph21
Senior Don Juan
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I admire your bluntness. It's not easy to admit what you did wrong in the past. It's a good thing. By recognizing your own AFC behavior, you are one step close in becoming a better person.
My advice to you is to fix what you can fix right now. You don't have to start from big problem first. Focus on doing one thing at a time.
What you did was creepy. It's no wonder that she wants to puke everytime she sees you.
Start with that. There are tons of useful materials on the internet. Search for something like, "how to not become creepy around girls", etc.
You might want to also learn about non-verbal communications. YouTube is a great place to learn about this matter. How you talk, walk, move, look can give you different outcomes.
SS + DJ Bible + Google search + YouTube are your best friends
It's 3:30 AM here and I'm so sleepy. I wish that I can give you more advices but my mind is so tired right now.
You remind me of my AFC days. Those advices are what I did to fix my AFC behavior in the past. I hope what I wrote can help you too.
My advice to you is to fix what you can fix right now. You don't have to start from big problem first. Focus on doing one thing at a time.
What you did was creepy. It's no wonder that she wants to puke everytime she sees you.
Start with that. There are tons of useful materials on the internet. Search for something like, "how to not become creepy around girls", etc.
You might want to also learn about non-verbal communications. YouTube is a great place to learn about this matter. How you talk, walk, move, look can give you different outcomes.
SS + DJ Bible + Google search + YouTube are your best friends
It's 3:30 AM here and I'm so sleepy. I wish that I can give you more advices but my mind is so tired right now.
You remind me of my AFC days. Those advices are what I did to fix my AFC behavior in the past. I hope what I wrote can help you too.
doctorstrange
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I really appreciate all your comments. I'll stick around and maybe post updates, if anyone's interested lol.
You know, it's already gotten better but sometimes when I'm reading or really doing anything, this image of 2 guys sucking her tits (god knows in front of how many people, she went there as part of a student meeting so there were people from many countries lol) comes before my eyes out of nowhere and...it hurts. It both hurts and kinda scares me I think. I don't want to admit that I still have feelings for her and I'm trying to move on as hard as I can but that goddamn image still keeps haunting me like the killer from Scream or Halloween. Is this normal or should I go see a psychologist before I go mental lol.
You know, it's already gotten better but sometimes when I'm reading or really doing anything, this image of 2 guys sucking her tits (god knows in front of how many people, she went there as part of a student meeting so there were people from many countries lol) comes before my eyes out of nowhere and...it hurts. It both hurts and kinda scares me I think. I don't want to admit that I still have feelings for her and I'm trying to move on as hard as I can but that goddamn image still keeps haunting me like the killer from Scream or Halloween. Is this normal or should I go see a psychologist before I go mental lol.