greatsnake
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most of us have been through that path. The most important thing is to realize what's going, change for the better and never look back.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
how my nice guyness somewhat ruined my life
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
sph21
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I admire your bluntness. It's not easy to admit what you did wrong in the past. It's a good thing. By recognizing your own AFC behavior, you are one step close in becoming a better person.
My advice to you is to fix what you can fix right now. You don't have to start from big problem first. Focus on doing one thing at a time.
What you did was creepy. It's no wonder that she wants to puke everytime she sees you.
Start with that. There are tons of useful materials on the internet. Search for something like, "how to not become creepy around girls", etc.
You might want to also learn about non-verbal communications. YouTube is a great place to learn about this matter. How you talk, walk, move, look can give you different outcomes.
SS + DJ Bible + Google search + YouTube are your best friends
It's 3:30 AM here and I'm so sleepy. I wish that I can give you more advices but my mind is so tired right now.
You remind me of my AFC days. Those advices are what I did to fix my AFC behavior in the past. I hope what I wrote can help you too.
My advice to you is to fix what you can fix right now. You don't have to start from big problem first. Focus on doing one thing at a time.
What you did was creepy. It's no wonder that she wants to puke everytime she sees you.
Start with that. There are tons of useful materials on the internet. Search for something like, "how to not become creepy around girls", etc.
You might want to also learn about non-verbal communications. YouTube is a great place to learn about this matter. How you talk, walk, move, look can give you different outcomes.
SS + DJ Bible + Google search + YouTube are your best friends
It's 3:30 AM here and I'm so sleepy. I wish that I can give you more advices but my mind is so tired right now.
You remind me of my AFC days. Those advices are what I did to fix my AFC behavior in the past. I hope what I wrote can help you too.
doctorstrange
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I really appreciate all your comments. I'll stick around and maybe post updates, if anyone's interested lol.
You know, it's already gotten better but sometimes when I'm reading or really doing anything, this image of 2 guys sucking her tits (god knows in front of how many people, she went there as part of a student meeting so there were people from many countries lol) comes before my eyes out of nowhere and...it hurts. It both hurts and kinda scares me I think. I don't want to admit that I still have feelings for her and I'm trying to move on as hard as I can but that goddamn image still keeps haunting me like the killer from Scream or Halloween. Is this normal or should I go see a psychologist before I go mental lol.
You know, it's already gotten better but sometimes when I'm reading or really doing anything, this image of 2 guys sucking her tits (god knows in front of how many people, she went there as part of a student meeting so there were people from many countries lol) comes before my eyes out of nowhere and...it hurts. It both hurts and kinda scares me I think. I don't want to admit that I still have feelings for her and I'm trying to move on as hard as I can but that goddamn image still keeps haunting me like the killer from Scream or Halloween. Is this normal or should I go see a psychologist before I go mental lol.