"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How much time do you spend with your SO

Muppet

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If you are in a LTR? Say you don't live together, how often do you see them?
Or if you live together, or are married, how often do you guys spend time together, not counting the time you are both home and do diff things.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Colossus

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I'm in a LTR of about 4 months. We are both busy with school, and we do a lot of things on our own. She's 21 and Im 25.

I would say on average we hang out 3-5 times per week, usually at night.
 

Adone

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I've been steady with my girlfriend for the last 20 months + or - and we usually see each other every other day for a hour or so. Once or twice a week we spend the afternoon together. We used to hang out together on saturday nights but not anymore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aaron B

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If she intiates the contact and comes to me I let her see me when I have free time. Occassionally I limit her access to mix things up.

If she doesn't call or contact me I just lay back and enjoy the time to myself or with friends.

we've been together for 6 months and its going great so far.
 

frivolousz21

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it was moved because that place is a forum of comunism..if its not about something dealing with the negative side of women...it cant be there.


anyways ive been with mine for nearly 8 months..and see her around 5 days a week.
 
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