"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how much should we read in to texting.

smoovedude23

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Exhibit A: You have a girl you just met that texts you a lot, but when your together she seems like she wants to just be friends.

Exhibit B: You have girl you just met, that never initiates texting with you, but always responds with long answers and is very text flirty with you after you have texted her, always comes over when you ask her, and when your together she lets you touch her and she wants to be close to you giving you all the signs that she sees you as a possible love interest or sexual partner

Exhibit C: This is the easy one, she never texts you, doesn't respond to your texts most of the time, and never follows through when you want to hang out with her

In my case I am dealing with situation B.

My question is how much do you look into texting when the girl doesn't text you first, but otherwise shows all the obivious signs of interest towards you and never turns down your offers to hang out one on one. Is she trying to appear not needy?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MisterD

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Obviously any interactions you have in real life hold much more weight than online/text/over the phone

Some girls just flat out refuse to text first. They want to seem mysterious, they want to seem busy, they don't want to bother you, they want to be chased, etc etc. Whole host of reasons why girls very rarely text first.

You just have to push forward and don't let it bother you. That is assuming of course they are showing interest when you're with them in person.

If they're not showing interest in person and they don't text first, take the hint.

If they are showing interest in person and don't text first, keep pushing forward with your game.
 

YouKnowI'mRight

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smoovedude23 said:
My question is how much do you look into texting when the girl doesn't text you first, but otherwise shows all the obivious signs of interest towards you and never turns down your offers to hang out one on one. Is she trying to appear not needy?
It's not what she says, it's what she does.
 

DonJuanabe

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Texting? Don't read too much into girls, period. After two weeks of dating (three dates with heavy kissing) I had one who on a Monday night demanded that we talk more often (at least every other day), keep in touch more, and that I not play games. The following night I called her and, in a somewhat hostile tone, she told me I shouldn't call her so much because we're not boyfriend/girlfriend.

Is she on the rag? Is someone else now in the picture? Is she a nutjob? Who the F knows.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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