"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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how much should we read in to texting.

smoovedude23

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Exhibit A: You have a girl you just met that texts you a lot, but when your together she seems like she wants to just be friends.

Exhibit B: You have girl you just met, that never initiates texting with you, but always responds with long answers and is very text flirty with you after you have texted her, always comes over when you ask her, and when your together she lets you touch her and she wants to be close to you giving you all the signs that she sees you as a possible love interest or sexual partner

Exhibit C: This is the easy one, she never texts you, doesn't respond to your texts most of the time, and never follows through when you want to hang out with her

In my case I am dealing with situation B.

My question is how much do you look into texting when the girl doesn't text you first, but otherwise shows all the obivious signs of interest towards you and never turns down your offers to hang out one on one. Is she trying to appear not needy?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MisterD

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Obviously any interactions you have in real life hold much more weight than online/text/over the phone

Some girls just flat out refuse to text first. They want to seem mysterious, they want to seem busy, they don't want to bother you, they want to be chased, etc etc. Whole host of reasons why girls very rarely text first.

You just have to push forward and don't let it bother you. That is assuming of course they are showing interest when you're with them in person.

If they're not showing interest in person and they don't text first, take the hint.

If they are showing interest in person and don't text first, keep pushing forward with your game.
 

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smoovedude23 said:
My question is how much do you look into texting when the girl doesn't text you first, but otherwise shows all the obivious signs of interest towards you and never turns down your offers to hang out one on one. Is she trying to appear not needy?
It's not what she says, it's what she does.
 

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Texting? Don't read too much into girls, period. After two weeks of dating (three dates with heavy kissing) I had one who on a Monday night demanded that we talk more often (at least every other day), keep in touch more, and that I not play games. The following night I called her and, in a somewhat hostile tone, she told me I shouldn't call her so much because we're not boyfriend/girlfriend.

Is she on the rag? Is someone else now in the picture? Is she a nutjob? Who the F knows.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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