"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How much should I ignore her?

MackDaddySwole31

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So, I've been talking to this girl at my job for the past couple of weeks. I knew she was really attracted to me because of the way she always hangs around me at work, and also because of the way she drops everything when i tell her to come hangout with me. However, I had to punish her, because she has really big ego, and she kept saying little phrases like, "You don't know who you're dealing with", and "don't flatter yourself". I demand respect, and I won't allow a women to think she can talk to me like that, so I started to ignore her. At work I keep it cordial, and only talk to her if it pertains to the job. She's texted me a couple of times, the most recent of which read, "What exactly did i do to you?". I didn't respond, and that was a couple of days ago. I can tell she's really bothered by the lack of attention she's been receiving from me. She goes out of her way to be around me and make conversation. My plan is to wait until she feels like she has no chance with me, and then pick back up as if nothing was ever wrong. However, I also feel like she might just lose interest completely. Also, I don't know how to react if she acts bitter once I start talking to her again. Is my game plan strong enough? Also, are my concerns legit concerns?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SeymourCake

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Ignore her when she does things you do not approve of and give her attention when she does things you do approve of.
 

MountainSlide

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What's with the passive aggressive high school girl games? Ignore her as punishment? A girl says some **** like that to me and I laugh! Because it is probably a joke.. Using negative affirmation? Really? Chick says that to me and I would just be like "I don't know who I'm dealing with? I'm dealing with a dumb little batch." but of course I would just be kidding too because it is funny to joke like that. You even hit it yet?? I would focus more on hittin' it than playing games. Like yeah have your own life, enjoy what you do, don't need to hit it, but want to hit it. If you do it proper, then she'll fall in love with you and you can have all the power.
 

Ksiretsus

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Dude, you totally missed the mark on that one. Those things she said were practically a written invitation to flirt and play with her.

Her- "you don't know who you're dealing with"
Me- "well from the sound of it, seems like I'm dealing with trouble"

Cheesy? Yes, but they eat that stuff up.
 

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Moved to DJD.

Her : "You don't know who you're dealing with"

Me : "I know damn well what I'm doing." +smirk.

Her : "Don't flatter yourself"

Me : "I'm just saying what you're thinking..." +smirk.

Don't take her remakes seriously. Just play along and have some fun teasing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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