How much of her jealousy is acceptable?

[Safari]

My Chinese girlfriend came home with me a few nights ago after my band's performance. My sheets were hanging up to dry, and I was accused of washing them because I had "another girlfriend" over. (Not true, I was just simply washing them because they needed it.)

During the show, I interacted with some female friends in the crowd. That's part of the show. I got heat for this as well. She says she loses face when I do this.

Two weeks ago, I had spend the day traveling two hours away to renew my visa. I was accused of taking a holiday with another girlfriend...again, total bull.

It's getting old now. Is this just a reassuring indicator of high interest, or a NEXTable offense? Thanks.

 

[squirrels]

Cheat on her...at least then her jealousy will be justifiable.

No, just kidding, don't do that. You know what...interacting with the crowd is part of your duty as a performer. It's part of your show. If she can't accept that, then maybe she shouldn't be dating a musician.

First of all, are you cheating?

If not, tell her to stop disrespecting you with false accusations, that you're tired of it and you're not going to stand for it any more. Maybe not in those words, but delivered with that kind of forcefulness. I'm sure you've already done the "Hey, hey, baby. It's not like that. YOu know I would never cheat on you." and it hasn't worked. F that. She's worried about losing face when you interact with women in the crowd, but doesn't think YOU lose face when she accuses you of cheating? B!tch.

If you ARE cheating, then just break up with her and save yourself a lot of heartache down the road.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Sounds like someone is testing you or trying to control you, either way, you need to put her in her place quick or she'll keep it up.

"accused of washing them because I had "another girlfriend" over."

Me: 'Yeah well, you don't want me sleeping in the wet spot do you?'

During the show, I interacted with some female friends in the crowd. That's part of the show. I got heat for this as well

Come on bro. Are you suppose to stop talking to female friends because you're dating her? Give me a break. She needs to know that you will talk to who ever you want, when ever you want. If she doesn't like it, she can move on.


Two weeks ago, I had spend the day traveling two hours away to renew my visa. I was accused of taking a holiday with another girlfriend...again, total bull.

What you do on your own time is your business, not hers. SHE needs to understand this.

 

[Safari]

I'm not cheating.

I don't even casually date other women, although some opportunities are already waiting if it comes to a breakup.

I do of course hang out in groups. Sometimes it's me and four Russian girls (I speak Russian moderately well). But I'm very upfront about this, and I show her that I have nothing to hide. I even show her pictures of our group and have offered to to introduce her to them.

I have been standing up for myself on all of these things. I'm just curious what DJs consider an acceptable level of jealousy from a woman.

 

[Project.D]

sorry for bringing up an old post but...

yeah like the others have said its a stupid test to see how far your leash is. your answer is that there is no leash. this girl i am with called me LONG DISTANCE for christ sake on her vacation to talk to me. i act aloof, joke about having another girl over, tell her i have to go. she contacts me later and says "why arent you talking to me? i treat you so well and you always treat me..."

i say: "Listen. You've brought this up for the third time. Bring it up again and i wont talk to you anymore. If you want to talk you can tell me about your day, how was your flight, etc. Dont bring up that "i treat you so well" bull**** because i dont want to hear it. Understand?"