"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How much, if any, does having a kid of your own impact your game?

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Question arose because I recently separated, officially divorce very soon.

Have a small child only 18 months old. Frankly, I am a bit self conscious of it (I know I need to get over that quickly)

1. When do you disclose this? Prior to meeting up on date, at the date, etc?

2. Is this an issue that hurts game?

3. If it does, how do you minimize the impact of this on dating, game, etc?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You will be more sensitive to your time and resources being wasted. Youll prefer a lady with at least one kid.
 
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Have a small child only 18 months old. Frankly, I am a bit self conscious of it (I know I need to get over that quickly)
You fathered a child. It’s a life changing event. The only way you get over it quickly is if you abandon your previous actions and emotional involvement with the life that you created…
Ignore your actions or own them, it’s your choice…
 
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Well,... Sorry about your Divorce but it's obviously going to impact your dating game, Good or bad, I couldn't tell you.

1. When do you disclose this? Prior to meeting up on date, at the date, etc? I wouldn't bring it up right away, Just focus on hanging out and dating the girl/girls and if it comes up then disclose it. If you are looking to just have sex and have a good time then I wouldnt bring it up either unless of course it comes up for example, "I have to go to take care of a few things" and she says "Why cant you stay with me for the night?" then you let it be known, "I have a child that i need to attend to". If she gives you problems after that then she can walk. Also if a chick ever gives you sh*t like "Why didnt you tell me right away!?" You dont need to tell her anything until and unless things begin moving towards a relationship or if she straight up asks "Do you have any kids".

2. Is this an issue that hurts game? I personally couldnt tell you because I have no kids but I have friends in this situation and from what I can tell, the only impact it has is limiting their time with certain activities. They may not be able to hang out all night because they need to care for their child.

3. If it does, how do you minimize the impact of this on dating, game, etc? You need a balancing act of your responsibilities and getting pvssy. You can't really minimize the impact in certain situations, for example, You need to care for your child one night vs she wants to meet up for a date. Your child comes first and therefore can't meet up with her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why would he prefer a lady with at least one kid?
They waste less time and more likely to respect a dad and be okay with kids. Childless girls are usually extremely selfish. A mother has to be more responsible and so does a dad.
 

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Hi Stoic,
Kipling said it all,"The more you have known of the others,the less will you stick with one"!
 
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Here is my question. What would be the purpose of disclosing it when you meet a woman? Has she done something awesome that compels you to disclose all the personal aspects of your life?
Is this a good subject to be talking with a new woman that you plan on spinning as a plate?
If she asks later...”why didn’t you tell me you had a kid?”
Just say “Were you planning on marrying me or something? You’re not proposing already are you?”
Or:
“Do you tell everything about yourself on the first couple of dates when you meet a man?”

“You see babe, I have to be able to trust a woman before I start letting out information that is close to me.”
 

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Here is my question. What would be the purpose of disclosing it when you meet a woman? Has she done something awesome that compels you to disclose all the personal aspects of your life?
Is this a good subject to be talking with a new woman that you plan on spinning as a plate?
If she asks later...”why didn’t you tell me you had a kid?”
Just say “Were you planning on marrying me or something? You’re not proposing already are you?”
Or:
“Do you tell everything about yourself on the first couple of dates when you meet a man?”

“You see babe, I have to be able to trust a woman before I start letting out information that is close to me.”
Agree you shouldve fvcked her a few times before that info is disclosed. Got her hooked to the dyck even.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thanks folks for the responses. Think Rangers response about joking about marrying is the one Ill use when questioned about it.
 

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Question arose because I recently separated, officially divorce very soon.

Have a small child only 18 months old. Frankly, I am a bit self conscious of it (I know I need to get over that quickly)

1. When do you disclose this? Prior to meeting up on date, at the date, etc?

2. Is this an issue that hurts game?

3. If it does, how do you minimize the impact of this on dating, game, etc?
My game is blow me me or blow me out but not before trolling her into oblivion.

A kid begs for child support rape. A few buddies battled the courts. Got kids due to the girl ****ing up. Ie drugs.

Tell her nothing. Put kid first. I know this is a new given how gross single moms are.
 
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