"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how much does your weight affect you?

OddManOut85

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ok.im overweight.not obses,but fat.i finally started losing weight earlier this summer.i want to get down to at least 170.so,my question is,how much does weight affect your success with the ladies? i mean,fat,skinny,built,husky,etc,we all want to get with hot chicks.or at the least pretty chicks.so,aside from trying to lose weight,what can i do to be able to attract pretty girls? i mean,with all this talk of looks on the board,lets be honest.hot girls go for hot guys mostly.it seems even average looking or kinda ok looking,or even straight up ugly girls still go for the attractive guy.right?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Panda 2000

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A lot.
I went from around 264lbs (120kg) to 209lbs (95kg) and the dealing with women is noticeably easier, the success is better etc. It's a very, very important factor. I'm looking to lose 22lbs (10kg) more to be lean. I used to be that guy when you looked at him and well, you knew he was fat. Now I'm regular, maybe a bit on the strong side but I'm going to lose 10kg in fat until new years or even more.
 

blinkwatt

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Most of the noticable differences are in the head. As you lose weight,bulk up or whatever you are shotting for comes closer and closer to completion you confidence shoots up.

Don't get me wrong it helps to be average over obese,or muscular over skinny.
 

Chosen1

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I'm overweight too I'm kind of stocky like george constanza, but i'm solid though so if a girl touches me she won't feel the fat she'll feel the muscle.But Don't feel bad though if you work at a demanding job you'll start to lose weight quickly, without trying.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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OddManOut85

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yeah.lol.i guess im "kind of stocky like george costanza as well".i work at a physcially demanding job.and i guess thats helped.its just,what kills me,is i have had all this time to get in shape,and i havent.its my own fault.
 

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I'm the complete opposit. I'm much too light (5'7 at 135 lb.). I'm going back to weight lifting to build some muscle mass.
Psychologically it has effected me much. It always make me feel bad about my appearance. I constantly feel self concious when going out.
 

donjuanjovi

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I went from 260 down to 175, and than built up to 210 which I'm at now. Confidence has shot through the roof. The road is rough but well worth it in the end. If you have the will power than anything is possible.
 

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You live with your body your entire life, make it something to be proud of.
 

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I was at 294 3 months ago, and it did affect me in a very very big way, mainly with self worth and courage.

Im now at 253, and hoping to be at 220 by christmas, and altho im far from an acceptable weight, im beginning to notice a girl checking me out from time to time , and confidence levels are skyrocketing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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brenbaus

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glad to see i'm not the only big guy here, although i've lost almost 80lbs since christmas. I'm down to 215, need to lose some more weight and then build some muscle
 

oakraiderz2

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Im 170. I wish i could gain 45 lbs...yea thatd b cool.
 
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