How much do ethnicity play a part in the dating game?

[SIXPAKGQ]

Do people get rejected just because they have a preference of dating certain ethnicities? Discuss

 

[HuangBei]

Actually man, that totally happens. Don't sweat it. I'm black and girls (before I started even using game on them) have said they didn't want to get in a realtionship with black guys because what their parents would say.

That's fu**ing retarded, but that's still how it is in certain places. The main areas to look out are in the midwest and south, but of course, I'm talking about America. The East and West Coast are pretty fond of the black men. Oooh heeeeelllll yes, they are!

Anyway, don't sweat it, and realize that there are a LOT of girls our there that (in my case, you might not be black) have never dated a brotha, but some are more than willing to try something new!

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

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bump

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by HuangBei
Actually man, that totally happens. Don't sweat it. I'm black and girls (before I started even using game on them) have said they didn't want to get in a realtionship with black guys because what their parents would say.

That's fu**ing retarded, but that's still how it is in certain places. The main areas to look out are in the midwest and south, but of course, I'm talking about America. The East and West Coast are pretty fond of the black men. Oooh heeeeelllll yes, they are!

Anyway, don't sweat it, and realize that there are a LOT of girls our there that (in my case, you might not be black) have never dated a brotha, but some are more than willing to try something new!

Just curious, why does it seem most black guys always want to date outside of their race. Don't black men like black girls? To be honest with you, I am white and am only attracted to white girls or Latina girls. I do not know any white guys who are attracted to black girls. I am not trying to be racist, but why do black guys dig white girls so much, more so than their own black girls.

 

[Capo De Tutti Capi]

ur not trying to be racist but u sure sounded racist. who cares? stupid questions. please. im hispanic. i like white girls. i like black girls, i like azn girls-it doesnt matter-hispanic girls have the brown skin too buddy.

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by Capo De Tutti Capi
ur not trying to be racist but u sure sounded racist. who cares? stupid questions. please. im hispanic. i like white girls. i like black girls, i like azn girls-it doesnt matter-hispanic girls have the brown skin too buddy.

How do you figure? I made no mention of a superiority or inferiorority of a certain race. Besides, I think "most" people are attracted to people whom share the same physical features as themselves.

 

[HuangBei]

Okay okay. Good call Capo. Truth is, I like girls of ALL colors. White, Black, Asian, Mexican (<--hell yeah biatch!), etc.

Now I could give you some bull**** answer that my former AFC self would have given you, such as "They have everything I don't." or some senitimental sh** like that, but here's why?

White girls are crazy and different! Hm..let's see. I like the blue eyes, green eyes, hazel eyes, golden eyes, the tanned skin, the golden skin, the pale skin, the red heads, blondes, platinum blondes, brunnettes, and...must I go on?

I just fu**ing know a good looking woman when I see one. Same goes for black women, and certainly mexicans and asians (I used to have a huge thing for asian girls, too much godda** anime and Japanese movies!).

Questioned answered, no one's offended, and if you don't know any white guys who like black chics, you've been looking in all the worst places. Cuz there are some fine a$$ black chics out there, br'a.

 

[tristan22]

I dated a black girl a few years back and it didn't work out b/c her parents weren't comfortable with the situation. If i'm attracted to a female, i don't care what race she is; attraction is attraction.

I went to a predominantly white university and a lot of interracial dating took place (especially amongst the athletes). Most of the black guys seemed to be attracted and date white girls only, which created a lot animosity (black girls were mad as he11). If you can get the girl of your choice.......Why the he11 not?

In my area i really don't see a lot of racism, everyone is relatively excepting. Racism doesn't attach itself to one color or creed, i'm sure everyone on this board has experienced it at least one time in their life; it's just another one of lifes obstacles we must overcome.

Date who you want and bang who you want, life is waaaay too short!

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by tristan22
I dated a black girl a few years back and it didn't work out b/c her parents weren't comfortable with the situation. If i'm attracted to a female, i don't care what race she is; attraction is attraction.

I went to a predominantly white university and a lot of interracial dating took place (especially amongst the athletes). Most of the black guys seemed to be attracted and date white girls only, which created a lot animosity (black girls were mad as he11). If you can get the girl of your choice.......Why the he11 not?

In my area i really don't see a lot of racism, everyone is relatively excepting. Racism doesn't attach itself to one color or creed, i'm sure everyone on this board has experienced it at least one time in their life; it's just another one of lifes obstacles we must overcome.

Date who you want and bang who you want, life is waaaay too short!

Bottom line - black guys suffer from a lot of internalized racism. You black dudes here will NEVER admit it, but it's true. I've heard it from the mouths of blacks themselves, and I tend to agree. Blacks know that in this racist/unfair paradigm that they've set up, black features are the least attractive. Thick lips, dark skin, broad noses - whites consider these traits generally unattractive, and blacks have internalized it. This is why black women straighten their hair, and why black males (if they can afford to - literally and figuratively) date outside their race. A Chinese, a Puerto Rican, an Irish -- ANYTHING but my own black women, PLEASE!



And please, knock it off with that "everything's racist!" crap. Mahon83053 asked a perfectly acceptable question. It wasn't a "go date your own you N*gro!" type of slur - he was just asking why black men (indeed) do date a lot outside their race.



The matter of the fact is what it is SO EASY to hide behind the "I date X and Y races.... so I'm just being open-minded. I'm not be racist" crap. That's just a cover-up for one's own racism, internalized or not. And as a race of men that are 'on the bottom' in terms of the Eurocentric standard of beauty, black men have PLENTY of motivation to date out - it is literally 'de-blackening' their genepool, if they have children. Further proof is that most black men who date outside their race have something to offer to the non-black female - for her to consider facing the social stigma of being with a black man, he has to have something to offer her, like money, fame, streed cred, protection - anything to offset the social ostracism (yes - it's racist, but that's the reality. I deal with the same **** from people when I'm with a whitegirl.) of being with a black man, the biggest taboo. So essentially, it isn't their 'blackness' that these non-black women are drawn to - sometimes its just racial stereotypes (sexual, for example), sometimes its other things I've mentioned above - but almost every SINGLE time - it is almost never their Africanized looks. As a non-white, I've also learned this first hand. Reality's a biatch, ya'll.



Or course I do recognize that black men and non-black women really do fall in love - but that doesn't exonerate many relationships based on self-hate and racist sexual fetishes. A black man who hates being black and a white woman with rampant jungle fever does not a cool couple make. In fact, they are pathetic. So are white dudes with an Asian fetish and self-hating Asian woman, and self-hating Asian dudes with white chicks. They all need to be FVCKing HONEST - as long as you're upfront about it, it is at least honorable. It bugs me that a lot of racist/self-hating people are too chickenshyt to stand on their own two legs, and hide behind veils of political correctness and "open-mindness".



BULLSHYT, you muthafukkers.

 

[Mercenary]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
This is why black women straighten their hair, and why black males (if they can afford to - literally and figuratively) date outside their race.

This makes no sense in 2004
Do you understand why?


on a side note:

this is counter to one of the core DJ principles. i have to dress and date according other people's standards?
Blasphemy

 

[Mercenary]

A white man who won't date out of his race is a racist?

A black man who does date out of his race is a racist?

WTF are you smoking!??

Read some literature on race and sexuality and you'll find out that you just need to STFU and let people fvck who they want to fvck.

 

[Mjolnir]

I have never met an "anti-racist" person in my life.

I've met people who can't stand a certain race, and I've met people who claimed to be "anti-racism" but in actually were against a certain race (or any races) preaching pride, thus being prejudiced themselves.

People are prejudiced, deal with it.

People have preferences too, deal with that.

If some girl doesn't want to get with you because of your ethnicity, that's her decision. Some people just prefer to stay amongst their own racial kind...

 

[California Love]

Dating within your race lends to a greater chance of success due to culture and genetic preferences.

 

[Le Parisien]

I genarally agree with what jakethasnake just said. I think we all need to drop the "I'm open-minded" crap, let's be honest and true to ourselves.

At least in America, that's very true, ethnicity MATTERS.
Being an Asian I learned it first hand, and I also learned a lot through one of my best friends who's black (he's from Ethiopia).

Just for the anecdote, it seems that a lot of Ethiopians, especially the Ethiopian girls are considered attractive here in the US, and this because of their "non-black" features. Most Ethiopians have the caucasian looking nose and their skin is usually not "very dark". Most Ethiopian girls are thin, but still well rounded where it should be... yum...

I think all the minorities in this country have generally this internalized racism, it's just that you see it more often among the black community because they are the majority among the minorities and thanks to the media, they are getting more media coverage in general. Just look at how "white" are those "black" girls in the music videos and you will understand what "internalized racism" means...

It's a sad world but it's the real world.

 

[tristan22]

Dude i'm not trying to make a racism doesn't exist post and i'm not trying to be the "look at me guys", i dated a black girl therefore i'm not racist......so why quote me. My point was, everyone is discriminated against, so don't use it as an excuse for your shortcomings in life.

I mentioned the i dated a black girl story to let people know that i'm white and she was black and her black parents were against it. In a sense, some black people have a problem with interracial dating, not just white people. That was my point!

Once again people, Date whomever you desire!

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

cali

where in bay area do u live?

 

[Le Parisien]

Who said only white people are racist?
From my personal experience, the Asians are the most racist people ever!

How many times have I seen my black friends getting turned down by Asian chicks at clubs simply because they were black...

And the black girls come second , they alwasy say "no" to me in a very bit**y way, they are always standing there waiting for the brothas to come back to them once the white chicks have rejected them.

Anyway, this is how things are like in Central Pennsylvania, pathetic isn't it?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

People have preferences based on color/race/ethnicity - this is not out of the ordinary and is quite normal. Some people are racist and will not date certain races/color regardless of how attractive they are.

Hispanics/Latinos are made up of different races - and mostly have Spanish/white blood or if Mexican then mostly Native/Indian blood. Some Hispanics are only spainards and some are only Natives American and some are only black and some mix.

Jakthasnake - many blacks/Africans have thin noses and thin lips and brown skin and are 100% African - look at a book with pictures of African peoples and you'll see the diversity within the "Black" race!

The scale of beauty has been defined by Europeans - thus the reason why some Blacks have an inferiority complex and try to look white.

If you look at those in Europe with just European traits you'll find some very unattractive people who have no lips and thin long big noses, small eyes and frail bodies, but no one ever sees them as unattractive because they are the victors in a white supremacist world.

The best looking people, in my opinion, are those who are 'mixed blood' with combined traits of all races/colors!!

 

[Hurri]

err why dont you guys just answer the question for him? the simple answer is yes, ur race affects your chances for many reasons.

the girl may be uncomfortable with other people seeing her dating someone not her race. remeber, Sarging is not all about how she feels, it's a bit about how other people think of her.

the girl may just be down right racist and dont like your race, get over it and move on.

However, im Asian, and ive ****ed white chickS. i think i have to work alot harder in the opener but it's much easier once you spew out some material.

 

[Le Parisien]

Some people are racist and will not date certain races/color regardless of how attractive they are.

PuertoRican_Lover is spot on.
Actually, we need to differentiate two kinds of "racisms".
Some one who natuarlly is not attracted by some features of some ethnicities is NOT a racist, it's just the way it is. On the other hand some one who is physically attracted but who will say no just because of the race thing is a racist.
Does the fact that I only dig thin girls make me a racist against fat chicks? I don't think so, I would go for a chick who's well rounded if I just happen to be attracted by her(although that's rare), and that has happened before...