How much contact....to remain a challenge?

[mecca411]

I'm seeing this girl who lives about 2hrs away. We first met about 2 and a half months ago and we see each other about every week and a half to 2 weeks. Things are going great and I wanna keep them that way.

What's the optimum amount of contact to keep her interest level high? By that I mean, how many times a week should I talk to her on the phone/email between the times that I'm actually in her physical presence. And what's the max amount of time I should spend talking to her on the phone? If it was up to her, we'd talk for an hour every time. What would you suggest? Thanks.

M.

 

[xblitz44x]

Here's an idea. See and talk to her when you want; because you want. If you are bound by rules you are no better off than you were before you found this site. Free yourself completely. No expectations, no limitations, no rules, just what you want, when you want. Have fun.

Interest isn't going to drop because you're talking to her more. That is something that *some* genius made up because they were under the impression that any girl who got to know them for who they REALLY were, would become turned off. So they came up with this "great idea" to just never be yourself in front of a girl, and constantly hide it by being a 'challenge' so that she never finds out how 'ugly' you really are.

I say fvck it.

-Blitz

 

[Survivor]

Originally posted by mecca411
I'm seeing this girl who lives about 2hrs away. We first met about 2 and a half months ago and we see each other about every week and a half to 2 weeks. Things are going great and I wanna keep them that way.

What's the optimum amount of contact to keep her interest level high? By that I mean, how many times a week should I talk to her on the phone/email between the times that I'm actually in her physical presence. And what's the max amount of time I should spend talking to her on the phone? If it was up to her, we'd talk for an hour every time. What would you suggest? Thanks.

M.

How and when you call/email her have absolutely no bearing on a woman's interest level.

If she's really interested in you, none of those things should matter. In fact, none of those things ever do.

Understand that rules like "wait 3 days to call" are just there to give desperate, needy guys time to catch their emotions. Its a way to teach self-control. The rules exist not to influence the woman, but to control the man.

It sounds like in your situation you don't need to be concerned with such things.