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Bud_Fox
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How much is too much?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Crazy Asian
Master Don Juan
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my parents think that if i can wear it, then it's good.
they don't understand style and fashion at all.
it's not we're poor, but my parents only think that girls are allowed to own more than 5 shirts.
i'm like, "mom, at least buy me enough clothes so that i can go a week wearing something different each day..."
and she's like "well you can just wash them before the other ones get dirty"
me: "-_-"
they think that any shirt over $10 is a waste.
they don't understand style and fashion at all.
it's not we're poor, but my parents only think that girls are allowed to own more than 5 shirts.
i'm like, "mom, at least buy me enough clothes so that i can go a week wearing something different each day..."
and she's like "well you can just wash them before the other ones get dirty"
me: "-_-"
they think that any shirt over $10 is a waste.
I'm assuming you're asian by your name, and yea, i feel you.Crazy Asian said:my parents think that if i can wear it, then it's good.
they don't understand style and fashion at all.
it's not we're poor, but my parents only think that girls are allowed to own more than 5 shirts.
i'm like, "mom, at least buy me enough clothes so that i can go a week wearing something different each day..."
and she's like "well you can just wash them before the other ones get dirty"
me: "-_-"
they think that any shirt over $10 is a waste.
Asian here as well, and its a absolute ***** to get them to buy me clothes. I have finally swapped my wardrobe out now so i'm ok with it. I'd like more but...eh, its good enough. I'll buy more when i have money of my own.
I think that with a lot of asian parents, just nag like a b**** and they'll give in a bit, if you know what i am saying.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Since I moved out on my own a little more than four years ago I greatly expanded my wardrobe. I have filled two full closets and have quite a few boxes of older, not worn clothes.
In my not so humble opinion... you can never have too many clothes.
In my not so humble opinion... you can never have too many clothes.
decadentdestruction
Don Juan
alot is never enough in my book , I like to follow trends in fashion , and keep up with the times, what I do with my old clothes or things that are not in style, I donate to charity , ex salvation army or goodwill, or when I go to mexico on vacation , I give my stuff to my cousins who can't afford what I buy
alnite
Don Juan
One.
Loin cloth.
Loin cloth.
2 pairs of casual brown shoes
2 pairs of casual black shoes
2 pairs of tennis shoes
5 pairs of jeans
2 pairs of cargo pants
1 columbia winter jacket
1 casual brown jacket
1 casual black jacket
10 hoodies
10 polos
10 t-shirts
various undershirts
bunch of shorts, etc etc.
2 pairs of casual black shoes
2 pairs of tennis shoes
5 pairs of jeans
2 pairs of cargo pants
1 columbia winter jacket
1 casual brown jacket
1 casual black jacket
10 hoodies
10 polos
10 t-shirts
various undershirts
bunch of shorts, etc etc.
DonGorgon
Master Don Juan
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IM very picky so i have a few thing s that i really like i never by anything that i dont love... I tend to stock up on nice clothes and shoes when i see them so when i have a date i dont have to scrabble and rush to find the perfect shirt and shoes...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.