Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
GENIUS QUOTE!!1!!1!!one!!1! I liek it a lot.Originally posted by Grey Fox
If you looks define your game. It looks like your game needs some redefining.
-Grey Fox
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Actually you are the one with the problem if you can't admit that a man is handsome. If you admit to that it doesn't mean you are gayOriginally posted by Desdinova
You've got a problem if you find some men handsome.
TOTALLY AGREED!Originally posted by Fatality
Actually you are the one with the problem if you can't admit that a man is handsome. If you admit to that it doesn't mean you are gay![]()
grow up
Okay, I'll cover myself in whipped cream, take a picture, and fire it your way. Any particular positions you wanna see me in?Actually you are the one with the problem if you can't admit that a man is handsome.
I was expecting a mature response like thatOriginally posted by Desdinova
Okay, I'll cover myself in whipped cream, take a picture, and fire it your way. Any particular positions you wanna see me in?![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Just me.Originally posted by DJ24SEVEN
How many ugly DJs do you know?
just walked through teh city, noticed loadsa ugly average guys with stunning girls, realized most of them dont get any sex, noticed lots of good looking guys? (wtf) have no self esteem and therefore opt for uglier girlsOriginally posted by S0LID
jus walked through the city, loadsa of ugly, average guys with stunning girls, and loads of gd looking guys with ugly grls.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
eyes (ec) , body language, confidence, being able to carry a conversation, carefreeOriginally posted by Anaxibios
I know a few... just goes to show you that looks are closer to the bottom of the list than we think... besides, have you ever seen a girl that you think is beautiful but your friend doesn't?
Not to coin a cliche, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder (esp. w women)
i can tell u a man is ugly when he is fat or has a mole on his face, but realistically, i cant take 10 men and rate them since i do not have such sexual attraction to be able to tell wich is most attractive,Originally posted by Fatality
Actually you are the one with the problem if you can't admit that a man is handsome. If you admit to that it doesn't mean you are gay![]()
grow up
You are 27 years old and usually give decent advice.Originally posted by Desdinova
Okay, I'll cover myself in whipped cream, take a picture, and fire it your way. Any particular positions you wanna see me in?![]()
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.