"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How many times have you been rejected?

How many times have you been rejected in your life?

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    Votes: 1 2.9%
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    Votes: 1 2.9%
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    Votes: 4 11.8%
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    Votes: 1 2.9%
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    Votes: 0 0.0%
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  • 10 or more

    Votes: 23 67.6%

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Fatality

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Originally posted by TyTe`EyEs
Sometimes, girls that AREN'T interested give the look.
Maybe they were interested and you said or did something wrong. All it takes is one screwup sometimes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TyTe`EyEs

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Originally posted by Fatality
Maybe they were interested and you said or did something wrong. All it takes is one screwup sometimes.

That is very possible. However, I sometimes find myself looking at girls that I'm in no way interested in. I just assume that girls do the same. Just because they happen to be looking at you does not necessarily mean they're interested.



That's my reasoning anyway.
 

Fatality

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Originally posted by TyTe`EyEs
That is very possible. However, I sometimes find myself looking at girls that I'm in no way interested in. I just assume that girls do the same. Just because they happen to be looking at you does not necessarily mean they're interested.



That's my reasoning anyway.
Just looking or glancing or making eye contact is not what I mean. I'm talking about the look. You know it when you see it. The girl doesn't realize she is looking at you that way but she is because she really likes what she sees.
 

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So, what exactly counts as a rejection?
If you are to count the amount of girls that "didn't sync with my personality", I'd be at about 80% of the girls I've approached.
If this is about a girl saying "NO! Fvck off!" to me, there have only been two rejections.

It's all a matter of how you measure, isn't it?
 

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If you're dedicated to improving your game, you should've been rejected about 30 times in your first WEEK.


If you're talking about being "REJECTED" as in being dumped by your finacee or long-term GF or wife - more than 10 times - then yes, the problem is probably with you. But I don't count a 'rejection' at a bar or club or on the street as a real rejection. That's a wussy perspective - way too timid and sensitive.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i dunno, not very many, but I don't take enough initiative to meet more girls because I'm just too busy to truly get in touch with girls around me. If I met more girls my rejection rate would go up but thats not a bad thing.
 
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