"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How many times do you keep calling?

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I got this chicks # called 2 days later, we spoke for like 2 mins she had to go back into class, she said she'd call me later that night. She never did. I called 2 days later, she doesnt pickup. I left a message saying "hey, i as just calling to see whatsup...etc" I wanna setup a date sometime next week, should i call again today or just another day?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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probably just low IL. work on her slowly if you want, but be willing to next
 
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well its really pissed me off today. Everything has been good so far, we smiled at each other i approached, was kinda wierd, got her number, we talked for like 2 mins, talked a lil bit made her laugh. She seemed really into it. USualyl i can tell when a girl is just flat out not interested. Who knows she could be like this with everyone.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lol...

Definitely a case of low IL and not enough rapport. Your approaches should cause them to WANT to see you again, or to anticipate your next call, or if you did it properly, your next date.

Throw it in the backend and call it every couple weeks asking to chill, or what's up, or yeah. She'll either bite because she's got nothing on her front end, or eventually you'll just drop her.

Work on your approach :)
 
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If a woman you don't know says she'll call you back and doesn't call you back, then she's a bullsh*tter and isn't worth the time of day.

She also probably doesn't want you either but who cares she f*cked up right, not you.
 
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Hopefully you're talking to enough girls at the same time that you will have already forgotten this girl. If you've seen the movie Swingers, you don't need to be the guy who keeps calling and leaving messages when the girl isn't that interested. In fact I don't leave messages anymore, mainly because if she really wants to know what I wanted to say then she will get back to me. Otherwise if I tell her everything up front, she has no reason to call back because you have put the ball in her court and she already has all the information she needs to make a decision. Such as not calling back.
 
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you guys are right, shes the only one i have in rotation, i do talk to other girls that like be me but i dont find um very attractive. Im thinking of calling this chick one more time, and thats it. Should i call today or wait a few more days(called her yesterday and left msg)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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IsiMan84 said:
Hopefully you're talking to enough girls at the same time that you will have already forgotten this girl. If you've seen the movie Swingers, you don't need to be the guy who keeps calling and leaving messages when the girl isn't that interested. In fact I don't leave messages anymore, mainly because if she really wants to know what I wanted to say then she will get back to me. Otherwise if I tell her everything up front, she has no reason to call back because you have put the ball in her court and she already has all the information she needs to make a decision. Such as not calling back.
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so true. living messages is gay and unecessary. if she really wanted to talk to you she would either pick up her phone in the first place (girls are rarely without their cellphones) or if she would get back to you in a reasonable amount of time. like the same day.
 
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gimmeyofonenumba said:
you guys are right, shes the only one i have in rotation, i do talk to other girls that like be me but i dont find um very attractive. Im thinking of calling this chick one more time, and thats it. Should i call today or wait a few more days(called her yesterday and left msg)
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Calling her again will just will put you down another notch in her respect meter.

She knows you called. If she is interested she will call back.

Just move on with your life and quit acting as if she is the only female left on the planet.
 
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I wait for a day or two.More than that gives her the right to be pissed and feel like you're playing games.

Most girls will think you're not interested if you don't call the very next day.

I just ask them out for the weekend right their on the spot.
 
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yea dont call back at all....get other chics....dont dwell on girls...i promise if you talk to other h0s youll forget all about her..
 
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