"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How many times do you keep calling?

gimmeyofonenumba

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I got this chicks # called 2 days later, we spoke for like 2 mins she had to go back into class, she said she'd call me later that night. She never did. I called 2 days later, she doesnt pickup. I left a message saying "hey, i as just calling to see whatsup...etc" I wanna setup a date sometime next week, should i call again today or just another day?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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probably just low IL. work on her slowly if you want, but be willing to next
 

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well its really pissed me off today. Everything has been good so far, we smiled at each other i approached, was kinda wierd, got her number, we talked for like 2 mins, talked a lil bit made her laugh. She seemed really into it. USualyl i can tell when a girl is just flat out not interested. Who knows she could be like this with everyone.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lol...

Definitely a case of low IL and not enough rapport. Your approaches should cause them to WANT to see you again, or to anticipate your next call, or if you did it properly, your next date.

Throw it in the backend and call it every couple weeks asking to chill, or what's up, or yeah. She'll either bite because she's got nothing on her front end, or eventually you'll just drop her.

Work on your approach :)
 

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If a woman you don't know says she'll call you back and doesn't call you back, then she's a bullsh*tter and isn't worth the time of day.

She also probably doesn't want you either but who cares she f*cked up right, not you.
 

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Hopefully you're talking to enough girls at the same time that you will have already forgotten this girl. If you've seen the movie Swingers, you don't need to be the guy who keeps calling and leaving messages when the girl isn't that interested. In fact I don't leave messages anymore, mainly because if she really wants to know what I wanted to say then she will get back to me. Otherwise if I tell her everything up front, she has no reason to call back because you have put the ball in her court and she already has all the information she needs to make a decision. Such as not calling back.
 

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you guys are right, shes the only one i have in rotation, i do talk to other girls that like be me but i dont find um very attractive. Im thinking of calling this chick one more time, and thats it. Should i call today or wait a few more days(called her yesterday and left msg)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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IsiMan84 said:
Hopefully you're talking to enough girls at the same time that you will have already forgotten this girl. If you've seen the movie Swingers, you don't need to be the guy who keeps calling and leaving messages when the girl isn't that interested. In fact I don't leave messages anymore, mainly because if she really wants to know what I wanted to say then she will get back to me. Otherwise if I tell her everything up front, she has no reason to call back because you have put the ball in her court and she already has all the information she needs to make a decision. Such as not calling back.
so true. living messages is gay and unecessary. if she really wanted to talk to you she would either pick up her phone in the first place (girls are rarely without their cellphones) or if she would get back to you in a reasonable amount of time. like the same day.
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
you guys are right, shes the only one i have in rotation, i do talk to other girls that like be me but i dont find um very attractive. Im thinking of calling this chick one more time, and thats it. Should i call today or wait a few more days(called her yesterday and left msg)

Calling her again will just will put you down another notch in her respect meter.

She knows you called. If she is interested she will call back.

Just move on with your life and quit acting as if she is the only female left on the planet.
 

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I wait for a day or two.More than that gives her the right to be pissed and feel like you're playing games.

Most girls will think you're not interested if you don't call the very next day.

I just ask them out for the weekend right their on the spot.
 

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yea dont call back at all....get other chics....dont dwell on girls...i promise if you talk to other h0s youll forget all about her..
 
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