"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How many relationships?

shyguy32

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Just wondering.....I feel like I've had very few relationships. If you count the one I had when I was in HS and the ongoing affair with a married woman at 19, I suppose I've been in what I would consider 8 total. 9 if you count the 7 month FB, but I never spent time with her unless we were having sex so I don't count it.

What would you guys consider to be the average amount? And it does get easier to handle with every relationship and you're able to look back on them and see why they didn't work and you get to learn from them to take into the next relationship.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Everyone is different, some people get married to the first girl they meet, some guys have a new gf every month. some guys date a girl for two years and repeat.


I guess the important thing is that you learn from your mistakes, can grow as a person, and have stronger relationships in the future.
 

zekko

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I've only had three relationships that have lasted more than six months.
Three years, ten years, and nine years (and counting).

I can't remember how many I had that lasted six months. That seems like some kind of cutoff point where by then you realize it isn't going to work, in a lot of cases.
 

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I have had 2 LTR's. Both of them lasting about 4 years, so totally 8 years of being exclusive with a woman. Those are the only two girls that i consider having been in a relationship with. I don't get into relationships until i feel like the girl is someone i can see myself with long term. All the other girls i've been with has mostly been ONS's. I've probably only slept with about 6 or 7girls more than just the one time. My total tally is approaching 40.

I have problems connecting emotionally with girls in the beginning to get them interested in ltr's. I need alot of time to connect properly, but when i do, it's pretty deep, hence the long periods of the few relationships i've had.
 

Warrior74

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I've had 3 LTRS. I have had double digit partners. Only one of those LTRs was really love....my first was high school, my second was my ex fiance in college, I loved that girl. And my last was the mother of my child. I'm pretty much done with LTRs now. I have no real interest.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Boilermaker

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Warrior74 said:
I've had 3 LTRS. I have had double digit partners. Only one of those LTRs was really love....my first was high school, my second was my ex fiance in college, I loved that girl..
What happened with your fiance?
 
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