"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How many relationships?

shyguy32

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Just wondering.....I feel like I've had very few relationships. If you count the one I had when I was in HS and the ongoing affair with a married woman at 19, I suppose I've been in what I would consider 8 total. 9 if you count the 7 month FB, but I never spent time with her unless we were having sex so I don't count it.

What would you guys consider to be the average amount? And it does get easier to handle with every relationship and you're able to look back on them and see why they didn't work and you get to learn from them to take into the next relationship.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GQ Scott

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Everyone is different, some people get married to the first girl they meet, some guys have a new gf every month. some guys date a girl for two years and repeat.


I guess the important thing is that you learn from your mistakes, can grow as a person, and have stronger relationships in the future.
 

zekko

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I've only had three relationships that have lasted more than six months.
Three years, ten years, and nine years (and counting).

I can't remember how many I had that lasted six months. That seems like some kind of cutoff point where by then you realize it isn't going to work, in a lot of cases.
 

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I have had 2 LTR's. Both of them lasting about 4 years, so totally 8 years of being exclusive with a woman. Those are the only two girls that i consider having been in a relationship with. I don't get into relationships until i feel like the girl is someone i can see myself with long term. All the other girls i've been with has mostly been ONS's. I've probably only slept with about 6 or 7girls more than just the one time. My total tally is approaching 40.

I have problems connecting emotionally with girls in the beginning to get them interested in ltr's. I need alot of time to connect properly, but when i do, it's pretty deep, hence the long periods of the few relationships i've had.
 

Warrior74

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I've had 3 LTRS. I have had double digit partners. Only one of those LTRs was really love....my first was high school, my second was my ex fiance in college, I loved that girl. And my last was the mother of my child. I'm pretty much done with LTRs now. I have no real interest.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Boilermaker

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Warrior74 said:
I've had 3 LTRS. I have had double digit partners. Only one of those LTRs was really love....my first was high school, my second was my ex fiance in college, I loved that girl..
What happened with your fiance?
 
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