You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think this shows that you're an idiot.Originally posted by Lt dan
i think this shows that most guys in this forum just go to the gym to look better, not to be more healthy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
*Claps* Brought a tear to my eyeOriginally posted by Soshyopathe
WTF? You'd take a guy's max pushup over max bench?
All this pro-pushup talk is from guys who workout at home and have a *nice* body. "Oh, I don't want to get bulky, even though I have no idea what it takes to get bulky." Sure, pushups are better than nothing, but after a couple of months, you need to move on. Would you squat the same weight but for more reps for months? Well, you guys do pushups, so you probably don't know what squatting is. These are the same guys who think they are muscular, but it's really just low body fat from being scrawny.
Originally posted by Lt dan
i think this shows that most guys in this forum just go to the gym to look better, not to be more healthy.
Actually, DIESEL said the same thing awhile back. For the most part, it's probably true. His term was "vanity lifters."Originally posted by Fred Da Head
I think this shows that you're an idiot.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Soshyopathe: All this pro-pushup talk is from guys who workout at home and have a *nice* body.
JADT: Yes,I am skinny,but with a nice build
Soshyopathe: "Oh, I don't want to get bulky, even though I have no idea what it takes to get bulky."
But seriously, folks, who hit the nail right on the head?JADT: That's nice and all,but i dont want to look like hulk hogan or those other huge wrestlers.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.