Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think this shows that you're an idiot.Originally posted by Lt dan
i think this shows that most guys in this forum just go to the gym to look better, not to be more healthy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
*Claps* Brought a tear to my eyeOriginally posted by Soshyopathe
WTF? You'd take a guy's max pushup over max bench?
All this pro-pushup talk is from guys who workout at home and have a *nice* body. "Oh, I don't want to get bulky, even though I have no idea what it takes to get bulky." Sure, pushups are better than nothing, but after a couple of months, you need to move on. Would you squat the same weight but for more reps for months? Well, you guys do pushups, so you probably don't know what squatting is. These are the same guys who think they are muscular, but it's really just low body fat from being scrawny.
Originally posted by Lt dan
i think this shows that most guys in this forum just go to the gym to look better, not to be more healthy.
Actually, DIESEL said the same thing awhile back. For the most part, it's probably true. His term was "vanity lifters."Originally posted by Fred Da Head
I think this shows that you're an idiot.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Soshyopathe: All this pro-pushup talk is from guys who workout at home and have a *nice* body.
JADT: Yes,I am skinny,but with a nice build
Soshyopathe: "Oh, I don't want to get bulky, even though I have no idea what it takes to get bulky."
But seriously, folks, who hit the nail right on the head?JADT: That's nice and all,but i dont want to look like hulk hogan or those other huge wrestlers.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.