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BeDJ
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Personally, I have not had any success at all. I'm wondering what I am doing wrong...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
gravityeyelids
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Tinder...a couple lays...but no where near being worth the effort and dozens and dozens of girls i had to sort through to get there.
POF...tried it but not nearly long enough for any results. Bunch of trash on there in general.
POF...tried it but not nearly long enough for any results. Bunch of trash on there in general.
SgtSplacker
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Got an LTR from FB. And my current squeeze from POF...
Lots of random encounters from both POF and OKC..
I spend alot of time on computers so it's either VMWare or a$$...
I think you know what I pick..
Lots of random encounters from both POF and OKC..
I spend alot of time on computers so it's either VMWare or a$$...
I think you know what I pick..
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BeDJ
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If you have your VCP, how long did it take you to get it?SgtSplacker said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Maximus Rex
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You Need to Make Adjustments
Holla at Harry, he's been so successful at it, that he's writing an e book on the very subject.BeDJ said:
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I had quite a few lays and SNL from OKC/POF using a mixture of Naughty Ninja and HarryWilminton's material. I'm more into social gaming and warm approaching these days. I don't plan to go back OLD anytime soon.Maximus Rex said:
I was curious on the SoSuave demographic in regards to online dating is all.
i quit online dating, the girls i met on there didn't seem very stable, they were super clingy trying to force a relationship on me. the rest of the women on there are not worth going out with or are fake. most girls online are looking to hook up with guys out of their league. if you are below them or the same in looks they wont bother with you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Harry Wilmington
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@BeDJ Hey there! I noticed you said my materials helped you in your online dating quest! I'm always curious as to how my material has been helpful to others, and I'd love to hear what insights of mine helped further you in your dating journey - do tell!!
Let me say this....for as much as I enjoy my generation, and growing up in the times I have grown up...online dating is one thing in which I can say I envy the experience of older guys here.
When you read their stories of old school online dating, its amazing how easy and care free it was. Im talking 2002 and before...or even 2000 and prior. I remember using chat rooms and different lil sites pre teens and teens used in the late 90s and early 00s...and boy was it fun and new.
In the early days of the internet boom, before all the social networking and broadband internet...things were much simpler, and people seemed much simpler. It wasnt nothing to log into a chatroom, or sign up for a website, ask a girl "asl?" and make new friends easily. Me and my buddies even met a few girls who didnt live far from us doing this. And this was as young bucks who werent even 15 yet...and long before OKCupid, Facebook, POF, and all that other stuff.
This was Yahoo, AOL, TalkCity, BlackPlanet, and other stuff. I cant imagine what we could have gotten into as adults, with money, cars, jobs, and experience back then. And sure we liked girls and wanted to talk to em...but as young bucks we were wasting a lot of time goofing off and playing video and card games too.
I always like reading about the good ole days of online dating. Wish I could have done it.
When you read their stories of old school online dating, its amazing how easy and care free it was. Im talking 2002 and before...or even 2000 and prior. I remember using chat rooms and different lil sites pre teens and teens used in the late 90s and early 00s...and boy was it fun and new.
In the early days of the internet boom, before all the social networking and broadband internet...things were much simpler, and people seemed much simpler. It wasnt nothing to log into a chatroom, or sign up for a website, ask a girl "asl?" and make new friends easily. Me and my buddies even met a few girls who didnt live far from us doing this. And this was as young bucks who werent even 15 yet...and long before OKCupid, Facebook, POF, and all that other stuff.
This was Yahoo, AOL, TalkCity, BlackPlanet, and other stuff. I cant imagine what we could have gotten into as adults, with money, cars, jobs, and experience back then. And sure we liked girls and wanted to talk to em...but as young bucks we were wasting a lot of time goofing off and playing video and card games too.
I always like reading about the good ole days of online dating. Wish I could have done it.
VikingKing
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I don't put much effort in. Living where I live now without a car makes it difficult unless I can get her to drive out here. i also have no money, not that you need a lot, but you need some money.
I do get fatties that msg me all the time.
Even this one girl whos about me section said "I was diagnosed with mild mental retardation, and adhd at birth." I am not fvcking joking. She wasnt fat, but looked kind of.... just not good looking at all. She message me and said "Do you want to go to six flags for free?" .... I was like wow, wtf. I was nice and told her "I'm not interested, and you should really change your about me section" She asked "why" then i blocked her. Wtf wrong with these bishes. You don't tell people your retarded, let them find out for themselves. I swear women are fvcked.
The fatty that messaged me today said "hey I'm xxx, how are you." My response "hey if you have a car and get a bottle you can come over." She said she has to work, don't worry i'm not disappointed, I kind of want to get drunk though. I would also tell her to bring food or somthing.
I agree with midnight, a lot of pof now is for there ego. Unless she is just a big time slvt and/or gold digger, they just love the attention they get.
Now if I had a basic car, and a basic job, and a basic apartment it would be totally different. I could actually be like, lets go to xxx, or meet me at xxx. Have a few drinks, whatever.
Regardless of your game, or looks, you need to at least have transportation (car or ride the bus if you live in the city) and enough to do somthing very cheap.
Of course I had that Indian woman pay my rent once...
So if your good looking, you will at least get fatties, or retarded girls msging you, with zero effort on your part.
I do get fatties that msg me all the time.
Even this one girl whos about me section said "I was diagnosed with mild mental retardation, and adhd at birth." I am not fvcking joking. She wasnt fat, but looked kind of.... just not good looking at all. She message me and said "Do you want to go to six flags for free?" .... I was like wow, wtf. I was nice and told her "I'm not interested, and you should really change your about me section" She asked "why" then i blocked her. Wtf wrong with these bishes. You don't tell people your retarded, let them find out for themselves. I swear women are fvcked.
The fatty that messaged me today said "hey I'm xxx, how are you." My response "hey if you have a car and get a bottle you can come over." She said she has to work, don't worry i'm not disappointed, I kind of want to get drunk though. I would also tell her to bring food or somthing.
I agree with midnight, a lot of pof now is for there ego. Unless she is just a big time slvt and/or gold digger, they just love the attention they get.
Now if I had a basic car, and a basic job, and a basic apartment it would be totally different. I could actually be like, lets go to xxx, or meet me at xxx. Have a few drinks, whatever.
Regardless of your game, or looks, you need to at least have transportation (car or ride the bus if you live in the city) and enough to do somthing very cheap.
Of course I had that Indian woman pay my rent once...
So if your good looking, you will at least get fatties, or retarded girls msging you, with zero effort on your part.