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BeDJ
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Personally, I have not had any success at all. I'm wondering what I am doing wrong...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
gravityeyelids
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Tinder...a couple lays...but no where near being worth the effort and dozens and dozens of girls i had to sort through to get there.
POF...tried it but not nearly long enough for any results. Bunch of trash on there in general.
POF...tried it but not nearly long enough for any results. Bunch of trash on there in general.
SgtSplacker
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Got an LTR from FB. And my current squeeze from POF...
Lots of random encounters from both POF and OKC..
I spend alot of time on computers so it's either VMWare or a$$...
I think you know what I pick..
Lots of random encounters from both POF and OKC..
I spend alot of time on computers so it's either VMWare or a$$...
I think you know what I pick..
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BeDJ
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If you have your VCP, how long did it take you to get it?SgtSplacker said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Maximus Rex
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Holla at Harry, he's been so successful at it, that he's writing an e book on the very subject.BeDJ said:
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I had quite a few lays and SNL from OKC/POF using a mixture of Naughty Ninja and HarryWilminton's material. I'm more into social gaming and warm approaching these days. I don't plan to go back OLD anytime soon.Maximus Rex said:
I was curious on the SoSuave demographic in regards to online dating is all.
i quit online dating, the girls i met on there didn't seem very stable, they were super clingy trying to force a relationship on me. the rest of the women on there are not worth going out with or are fake. most girls online are looking to hook up with guys out of their league. if you are below them or the same in looks they wont bother with you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Harry Wilmington
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@BeDJ Hey there! I noticed you said my materials helped you in your online dating quest! I'm always curious as to how my material has been helpful to others, and I'd love to hear what insights of mine helped further you in your dating journey - do tell!!
Let me say this....for as much as I enjoy my generation, and growing up in the times I have grown up...online dating is one thing in which I can say I envy the experience of older guys here.
When you read their stories of old school online dating, its amazing how easy and care free it was. Im talking 2002 and before...or even 2000 and prior. I remember using chat rooms and different lil sites pre teens and teens used in the late 90s and early 00s...and boy was it fun and new.
In the early days of the internet boom, before all the social networking and broadband internet...things were much simpler, and people seemed much simpler. It wasnt nothing to log into a chatroom, or sign up for a website, ask a girl "asl?" and make new friends easily. Me and my buddies even met a few girls who didnt live far from us doing this. And this was as young bucks who werent even 15 yet...and long before OKCupid, Facebook, POF, and all that other stuff.
This was Yahoo, AOL, TalkCity, BlackPlanet, and other stuff. I cant imagine what we could have gotten into as adults, with money, cars, jobs, and experience back then. And sure we liked girls and wanted to talk to em...but as young bucks we were wasting a lot of time goofing off and playing video and card games too.
I always like reading about the good ole days of online dating. Wish I could have done it.
When you read their stories of old school online dating, its amazing how easy and care free it was. Im talking 2002 and before...or even 2000 and prior. I remember using chat rooms and different lil sites pre teens and teens used in the late 90s and early 00s...and boy was it fun and new.
In the early days of the internet boom, before all the social networking and broadband internet...things were much simpler, and people seemed much simpler. It wasnt nothing to log into a chatroom, or sign up for a website, ask a girl "asl?" and make new friends easily. Me and my buddies even met a few girls who didnt live far from us doing this. And this was as young bucks who werent even 15 yet...and long before OKCupid, Facebook, POF, and all that other stuff.
This was Yahoo, AOL, TalkCity, BlackPlanet, and other stuff. I cant imagine what we could have gotten into as adults, with money, cars, jobs, and experience back then. And sure we liked girls and wanted to talk to em...but as young bucks we were wasting a lot of time goofing off and playing video and card games too.
I always like reading about the good ole days of online dating. Wish I could have done it.
VikingKing
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I don't put much effort in. Living where I live now without a car makes it difficult unless I can get her to drive out here. i also have no money, not that you need a lot, but you need some money.
I do get fatties that msg me all the time.
Even this one girl whos about me section said "I was diagnosed with mild mental retardation, and adhd at birth." I am not fvcking joking. She wasnt fat, but looked kind of.... just not good looking at all. She message me and said "Do you want to go to six flags for free?" .... I was like wow, wtf. I was nice and told her "I'm not interested, and you should really change your about me section" She asked "why" then i blocked her. Wtf wrong with these bishes. You don't tell people your retarded, let them find out for themselves. I swear women are fvcked.
The fatty that messaged me today said "hey I'm xxx, how are you." My response "hey if you have a car and get a bottle you can come over." She said she has to work, don't worry i'm not disappointed, I kind of want to get drunk though. I would also tell her to bring food or somthing.
I agree with midnight, a lot of pof now is for there ego. Unless she is just a big time slvt and/or gold digger, they just love the attention they get.
Now if I had a basic car, and a basic job, and a basic apartment it would be totally different. I could actually be like, lets go to xxx, or meet me at xxx. Have a few drinks, whatever.
Regardless of your game, or looks, you need to at least have transportation (car or ride the bus if you live in the city) and enough to do somthing very cheap.
Of course I had that Indian woman pay my rent once...
So if your good looking, you will at least get fatties, or retarded girls msging you, with zero effort on your part.
I do get fatties that msg me all the time.
Even this one girl whos about me section said "I was diagnosed with mild mental retardation, and adhd at birth." I am not fvcking joking. She wasnt fat, but looked kind of.... just not good looking at all. She message me and said "Do you want to go to six flags for free?" .... I was like wow, wtf. I was nice and told her "I'm not interested, and you should really change your about me section" She asked "why" then i blocked her. Wtf wrong with these bishes. You don't tell people your retarded, let them find out for themselves. I swear women are fvcked.
The fatty that messaged me today said "hey I'm xxx, how are you." My response "hey if you have a car and get a bottle you can come over." She said she has to work, don't worry i'm not disappointed, I kind of want to get drunk though. I would also tell her to bring food or somthing.
I agree with midnight, a lot of pof now is for there ego. Unless she is just a big time slvt and/or gold digger, they just love the attention they get.
Now if I had a basic car, and a basic job, and a basic apartment it would be totally different. I could actually be like, lets go to xxx, or meet me at xxx. Have a few drinks, whatever.
Regardless of your game, or looks, you need to at least have transportation (car or ride the bus if you live in the city) and enough to do somthing very cheap.
Of course I had that Indian woman pay my rent once...
So if your good looking, you will at least get fatties, or retarded girls msging you, with zero effort on your part.