I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A big part of this is that you're dating a girl who has already left you in her mind (and who is likely already sleeping with someone else) and then no matter what you do she responds in a negative way, and that naturally brings out or is later perceived as AFC behavior, and her interest hits rock bottom during what seems like just one disagreement.SoldMySoul said:
Very true. Dating has moved toward quantity versus quality.SoldMySoul said:
I would say that I am no bigger an afc or less of one than anyone else. I have had stellar moments dating and pulled off things like a true champ that I am and of course I have done stupid things. Currently I seem to be in a huge slump. Trying to crawl out of this hole has been tough. Still getting over a bad break up with ex fiancee' a few months ago. So in essence rebuilding the ole self esteem.. Seems once I start getting back on the good road, I get hit by something that puts me on the bad road again.bigneil said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Preposterous! I myself have slept with at least two women! I am an expert!Naughty Ninja said:
loveshogun said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
