You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
A big part of this is that you're dating a girl who has already left you in her mind (and who is likely already sleeping with someone else) and then no matter what you do she responds in a negative way, and that naturally brings out or is later perceived as AFC behavior, and her interest hits rock bottom during what seems like just one disagreement.SoldMySoul said:
Very true. Dating has moved toward quantity versus quality.SoldMySoul said:
I would say that I am no bigger an afc or less of one than anyone else. I have had stellar moments dating and pulled off things like a true champ that I am and of course I have done stupid things. Currently I seem to be in a huge slump. Trying to crawl out of this hole has been tough. Still getting over a bad break up with ex fiancee' a few months ago. So in essence rebuilding the ole self esteem.. Seems once I start getting back on the good road, I get hit by something that puts me on the bad road again.bigneil said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Preposterous! I myself have slept with at least two women! I am an expert!Naughty Ninja said:
loveshogun said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
