MightyMate
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I do. What about You ?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How many of You cheat in LTR ?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MightyMate
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Shut up kid. And dont tell others what beeing DJ is for. Its You personal choose if You cheat or not kid.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
if i am in an LTR i don't intend to cheat, because if its an LTR its someone i care about.
im not patient enough to be in a relationship with women that i don't consider very worthy, therefore i wouldnt be cheating.
in STRs and MLTRs whatever happens, happens, but i don't pretend to be faithful in those.
im not patient enough to be in a relationship with women that i don't consider very worthy, therefore i wouldnt be cheating.
in STRs and MLTRs whatever happens, happens, but i don't pretend to be faithful in those.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SeldomSeen
Senior Don Juan
RE:
now wait are you saying this because you're proud of the fact that you cheat or you want justification by asking the rest of the readers if they cheat also. I have cheated in a LTR and honestly I didnt feel any better, in fact I felt a little worse.
now wait are you saying this because you're proud of the fact that you cheat or you want justification by asking the rest of the readers if they cheat also. I have cheated in a LTR and honestly I didnt feel any better, in fact I felt a little worse.
MightyMate
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Go make some more accounts and split e-personalities. Flood us with them saying whats wrong and whats not. Nerd.
MightyMate
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Re: RE:
I just made topic. I feel good with cheating. I dont need any justification or support. I think its a good topic for a discussion.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Naw, I don't. I feel too guilty afterwards. *shrug*
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MightyMate
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I used not ot cheat, But when LTR was ending i was lkie 'damn i could have those girls and didnt.. What now?'. SO now, when my girl pisses me off i always cheat. I dont do that when its fine between us, but if she pisses me off more than 2 days in a row i cheat. That sounds silly but it helps our LTR because im getting less stressed.
TedJustAdmitIt
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There's simply no need.
If you desire an open relationship then that's the frame you set from the beginning.
Yes there will be those women that won't agree and those are the one's that you need to let go.
There will,however,be women who also want an open relationship and these are the one's who fit the criteria needed to be a MLTR.
IMHO,setting up a pretense of sexual exclusivity and then sleeping around behind the person's back shows that you suffer from the scarcity mindset ie:you believe that you must hide your true intentions due to a lack of confidence in your ability to attract one of the 3 billion other women in the world who would be happy in an open relationship.
If you desire an open relationship then that's the frame you set from the beginning.
Yes there will be those women that won't agree and those are the one's that you need to let go.
There will,however,be women who also want an open relationship and these are the one's who fit the criteria needed to be a MLTR.
IMHO,setting up a pretense of sexual exclusivity and then sleeping around behind the person's back shows that you suffer from the scarcity mindset ie:you believe that you must hide your true intentions due to a lack of confidence in your ability to attract one of the 3 billion other women in the world who would be happy in an open relationship.
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
And,
If you want to screw multiple women, don't agree to be her boyfriend.
MinDFreeZ
Don Juan
you know.. during a "fight" with my LTR as of now, she decided to get drunk and kiss another guy in front of me... we were "broken up".. but it feels like total ****.. so the only reason I would ever cheat is because I feel it's alright, because SHE did it first.... but I haven't.. I've been good.. I did sleep with an ex LTR during the beginning of my current one.. just because the current LTR didn't want to be "serious" at the time.. which was fine.. but she had moved in 
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Go jump in front of a train.
BingoBango
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I dont think there's much point in calling this guy a loser. I mean if he wants to cheat in LTR then let him - 'each to his own'. It takes all different types to make up the world... i dont believe in cheating in LTR, but a lot of girls do it, so what if this guy wants to? I mean, it's not like he's married to these girls....
It's important to keep an open mind. Chances are, people who participate in this forum are not in a position to judge others, and get on their 'high horses'.
Success can come from doing things differently... this guy has a different opinion to yours... don't call him an idiot, nerd, etc because of it.
That's my opinion, and i welcome yours.
It's important to keep an open mind. Chances are, people who participate in this forum are not in a position to judge others, and get on their 'high horses'.
Success can come from doing things differently... this guy has a different opinion to yours... don't call him an idiot, nerd, etc because of it.
That's my opinion, and i welcome yours.
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Yeah sure why not? I've done it before. If and when I decide to get back into a "LTR" I probably will do it again (unless my gf is so good 24/7 she literally drains my balls empty and leaves me zero desire for other women and is mindblowingly inventive with sex, I'm talking sucking c@ck at least once a day with a genuine smile on her face and a "is that all you got for me?" reply after shes done swallowing.....doubtful) .
Me and a mate were talking about this just the other day, we both came to the conclusion that every man worth his salt (us) needs the chick who we "love" and looks after us at home, a primary in other words and a dirty little minx on the side who you can thrash and be totally selfish with.
Kind of like steak at home but every now and then go out for a greasy hamburger, nothing personal to the steak, the steaks still great and everything.
Sort of a loophole to bypass the fact of society brainwashing men into believing that theyre physically and mentally designed for 1 chick and 1 chick only.
Me and a mate were talking about this just the other day, we both came to the conclusion that every man worth his salt (us) needs the chick who we "love" and looks after us at home, a primary in other words and a dirty little minx on the side who you can thrash and be totally selfish with.
Kind of like steak at home but every now and then go out for a greasy hamburger, nothing personal to the steak, the steaks still great and everything.
Sort of a loophole to bypass the fact of society brainwashing men into believing that theyre physically and mentally designed for 1 chick and 1 chick only.
MightyMate
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Re: Re: How many of You cheat in LTR ?
Im 100% sure You are not in LTR. Get a life!
All you ask this: does cheating please yourself?
It so, its ok. Remember that if perform a more solid LTR the social statics will counter you (all the people like here, that blamed you about what you are doing), and if you are caught... its the end of the term. Anyway I would feel free to attach my LTR girl what kind of relation are we going to have from now and on to avoid this kind of situations...
If not then maybe you really found the one in your life or you are mentally controlled by the social statics.
By myself I think the one does not exist, and cheating is enough if your LTR o MLTR have an idea, that she is not the one for you (and she obvioulsy can cheat you without deserve)
NOTE: When I say the one I refer to the same as one-itis
It so, its ok. Remember that if perform a more solid LTR the social statics will counter you (all the people like here, that blamed you about what you are doing), and if you are caught... its the end of the term. Anyway I would feel free to attach my LTR girl what kind of relation are we going to have from now and on to avoid this kind of situations...
If not then maybe you really found the one in your life or you are mentally controlled by the social statics.
By myself I think the one does not exist, and cheating is enough if your LTR o MLTR have an idea, that she is not the one for you (and she obvioulsy can cheat you without deserve)
NOTE: When I say the one I refer to the same as one-itis
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.