"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How many of you agree with this?

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Can't completely agree with this one.

First, the whole "lose value" concept is ridiculous as it applies to dating. Stocks can lose value. Your house can lose value in a turbulent market. That new car you just bought loses value when you drive it off the lot....

But how can a man "lose value" by simply approaching a female stranger? Outside of groveling to a woman or making a complete fool of himself in some obvious way, I don't see how a man can "lose" his value as a human being, simply by approaching a woman...

Secondly, while showing your cards too early CAN kill attraction, that is far from a given. Women love confidence in a man, as I'm sure you know. A man can show interest in a woman (directly) in a nonchalant way, while not displaying neediness, and still be attractive in that woman's eyes. It all comes down to whether that particular woman finds that particular man attractive (through personality, game, looks, etc.)....

It's true that when a random guy approaches a woman, the woman usually knows the guy is interested. But men are expected to approach women in our culture, just like women are expected to uphold a certain level of beauty (hence makeup, high heels, jewelry, etc.) in order to ATTRACT a certain type of man....
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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