"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How many of yall made some good friends from taking martial arts classes?

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Yes I want to do martial arts for self defense and getting in shape…but also want to get know more interesting people.

Anyone here used this to make new friends? Just wondering
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I just responded to a post the other day about this. To answer your question a resounding yes.

I started attending classes on my own to push my comfort zone, be more confident and engage with others. If you go to a gym with a good vibe and are willing to learn you can make friends. It's kinda hard not to get know the guy you're rolling with as he's submitting you.

A lot of people are shy to try out gyms on their own and feel uncomfortable, but a good gym will treat you well. Sometimes you have to a try a couple to see what sticks. Nearly every martial art has a free drop in on their website or a week long trial. You rarely need any gear to get started, don't hesitate to call a gym and let em know you are interested.
 
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Eventually, if you keep on it. Might take some time, but usually the's lots of cool guys and gals there.

Now one thing I wouldn't mention if it wasn't for the shield of anonymity. For young and lonely zoomer generation guys I would really recommend grappling:

Wrestling, MMA, BJJ, nogi bjj, judo, sambo whatever.
Because that is awesome way give and receive human touch and physical closeness(with men and women) and getting used to it. Bit like dancing classes actually. This is actually really good for your mental wellbeing and makes you feel less needy.

Getting physically close to and touching another person might feel uncomfortable at first if you have never really done it except by you parents when you were kid.

Getting used to it will actually make your initial seduction kino much more congruent and non "weird and icky".

Just don't chit were you eat. No weird eye contact or comments in closed guard goddamnit! :rofl:
 

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@TheGrindEqualsHappiness This is a fantastic post and I really resonate with this. Hitting a bag with 16oz gloves is not the same as rolling with a guy on a mat.

It sounds silly, but during the pandemic I (like many) had a lack of physical connections with others. For a time, the touch of another person felt genuinely foreign until I put myself out there again. But there is something inherently different about working with another person in a combat sense that I really enjoy. I've been going to a Sambo/bjj gym only briefly, but honestly my comfort level in regards to engaging with someone has been great. I'm fortunate also to have some friends who have been practicing BJJ for very long time who are more than willing to show me things.

On the whole a very enriching experience and I would advocate for all men to at least try a martial art that interests them.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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