You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I never took any lessons. I just practiced a lot when I was a teenager. The way I learned was to sing along with songs and try making my voice and the voice on the recording sound 'as one' or 'in sync'. When you do that, you're hitting the notes dead on. Use songs where the singer holds the notes for a long period of time. "Bridge Over Troubled Water" is a good example.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mine may not be much past 3 octaves, but yes, I used to do stuff like that when I played an acoustic solo act. I could flip from Joan Osborne or Sheryl Crow right into Neil Diamond. It always made people laugh, but in a good way.