She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I never took any lessons. I just practiced a lot when I was a teenager. The way I learned was to sing along with songs and try making my voice and the voice on the recording sound 'as one' or 'in sync'. When you do that, you're hitting the notes dead on. Use songs where the singer holds the notes for a long period of time. "Bridge Over Troubled Water" is a good example.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mine may not be much past 3 octaves, but yes, I used to do stuff like that when I played an acoustic solo act. I could flip from Joan Osborne or Sheryl Crow right into Neil Diamond. It always made people laugh, but in a good way.