"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How Many Musicians Do We Have Here?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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For those that can sing I am eternally jealous of all you. When G-d made me She surely goofed by giving me a crap voice since that's what I'd like to do most in the world.
 

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For those that can sing I am eternally jealous of all you. When G-d made me She surely goofed by giving me a crap voice since that's what I'd like to do most in the world.
Are you a female?
 

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At first, I was messing around with trance and house, just to pick them apart...I finally settled into ambient breaks. Seems natural to me. See: Massive Attack...but my stuff is more gitchy with weird noises an what I call "break slice processing" which is basically taking drum loop slices and processing them individually or in groups.

my secret weapon of choice:


Ah, you use reasons huh? That was part of my first daw! Now I mostly use studio one ver 3.0.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I sing. My voice is Mezzo Soprano with a size able break in the midrange. I can sing most anything Sarah McLachlan or Annie Lenox does...or Ellie King.

Typically if I perform its in church as a soloist or in a small ensemble but I've occasionally sung with bands.

When I get more free time am going to get serious about piano.
 

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I was learning piano for a few months a few years ago. I liked the lessons by this guy:


It was filmed in 2008, so he had a whack microphone. Good lessons overall because he teaches you technique and music theory.
 

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I sing. My voice is Mezzo Soprano with a size able break in the midrange. I can sing most anything Sarah McLachlan or Annie Lenox does...or Ellie King.

Typically if I perform its in church as a soloist or in a small ensemble but I've occasionally sung with bands.

When I get more free time am going to get serious about piano.
This may sound strange, but you actually strike me as someone who might be able to sing. I can normally tell within a few minutes if someone has musical ability. I remember back a few years ago I was at the opening of an Arnold Schwarzenegger movie( he was there too) and a female walked up to me and said hey your a musician and play keyboards huh? I mean she said it like she was sure about it too. I was floored, and how she knew this is beyond me..

Well listen, pretty much ANYTHING you need to know about piano, I can help. Do you have a piano or keyboard? I can give you a few pointers and point you in the right direction, so you don't make the same mistakes I made.

There are a lot of tools out here nowadays esp with midi players like vanbesco player or midiculous. Basically they read midi data and show the notes on a virtual keyboard! And both of these can be used for karaoke too:

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So, just find the midi for the song you want to learn and viola you have a note for not rendition of pretty much ANY song in existence! I think I have almost all of Annie Lennox and Sarah Mclachlan, me and Sarah are the same age.:up:
 

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I played drums my whole life and was in a punk rock band in high school way back when. Now in my mid 30s, I've taken up the electric guitar. After my most recent breakup, I went out and bought a dope Schecter guitar hellraiser diamond series 6-string with deep ocean burst color. I practice everyday, yet need proper instruction. Next week, I'm taking my first lesson. My endgame goal is to learn how to play djent / progressive and death metal.

Some bands I've been really digging lately: Plini, Scale the Summit, Polyphia, Animals as Leaders, David Maxim Micic, and The Algorithm.

Seriously check out how good these guys are:



Wow! These are some great musicians, love it!! ;)
 

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I can sing most anything Sarah McLachlan or Annie Lenox does...or Ellie King.
When I get bored at karaoke bars, I'll do 5hit just for the challenge. I can pull off Annie Lennox not bad, and I wish they had Elle King's "Under The Influence" so I could attempt that one.

I've got a range of 3 or 4 octaves. I'll sing Bon Jovi, Led Zeppelin, and then do some fvcking Johnny Cash.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I play the guitar. Mostly metal, across different subgenres. However, I play some non-metal with my Variax. I'm actually going to a jam session tonight. Might start a band. If you can sing and/or play = value.
 

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When I get bored at karaoke bars, I'll do 5hit just for the challenge. I can pull off Annie Lennox not bad, and I wish they had Elle King's "Under The Influence" so I could attempt that one.

I've got a range of 3 or 4 octaves. I'll sing Bon Jovi, Led Zeppelin, and then do some fvcking Johnny Cash.
That's a cool track by Ellie King. I do Under the Bridge with the high soprano line at the end sometimes for fun. I've always wanted to try "Crying" by Roy Orbison for kicks.

I wish I could sing Robert Plant. Oh well.

"Alleluia" by Leonard Cohen is a fun one too.
 

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I wish I could do Steve Perry. Can't pull it off and Journey's songs tend not to sound so great transcribed down.
 

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Beautiful falsetto!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I played drums for the first time, last night at a jam session. I wasn't too bad, so I'm going to invest in a kit. A drunk chick was really getting into it.
 

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I played drums for the first time, last night at a jam session. I wasn't too bad, so I'm going to invest in a kit. A drunk chick was really getting into it.
Lmao! :rofl:Good to hear it, what kind of music you play?
 

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I've been interested in learning how to sing for the past few years but never followed up on it. I'm considering voice lessons in the summer when things are a bit less busy for me.

Besides that,

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Any tips for beginners? Starting points?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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