"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How many girls have you slept without using a condom?

OldbutSTRONG

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I just got my results from HIV testing and it's negative. Had a few nights with girl I met on the computer and I was stupid and didn't use a condom all the time. Thought with my little head instead and didn't bother after the first time.

Counting everything(long-term, short-term, one night stands) how many women have you had sexual intercourse without the use of a condom? I imagine there must be a few guys here who number in the hundreds without the rubber.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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:(

ehhh. Lets say I'm doing better now.
 
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As someone who is about to embark on a Military career, I wouldn't go into battle without a helmet and there is no way I'm having sex without a rubber. Even in relationships I refuse to have sex without a condom. I just won't allow it to happen.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SoldMySoul

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
:(

ehhh. Lets say I'm doing better now.
HAHAHAHA!!!!! ^^^^^^THIS^^^^^ Starting yesterday as a matter a fact and I feel much better for doing so. My blood work came back good from last Wednesday and No STDs... So yesterday, I was eager to use a condom when she asked did I have one... EVEN if she didn't, I was strapping jimmy on!!! Thanks Lifestyles extra sensitive in da purple box!!

In the future, I will NOT USE one in a committed relationship..and a committed one only!!
 

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A couple months ago I went raw in this girl and I messed up and actually busted in her. Now she was cool and got the plan b (I didn't even have to pay anything). But when I was thinking about it I gave this girl my seed and she could have easily said no to the pill. If she said that and I got her pregnant then I would have been screwed. In my head I was like this is very unfortunate because this was probably the ugliest girl I have ever slept with. HB 6 with banging body. I can't have a kid with an unnactractive girl. This would mess me up mentally! So since then I been keeping it safe. (Unless she is a dime :p)
 

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That's none of your business, but happy you didn't get anything from that girl you slept with.
 

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I've never understood the raw situation. I realize it feels better but my theory is, I LOVE sex. Sex is my life. I don't want there to come a time where I won't be able to have it, because of a serious std, nor do i wanna get a **** buddy pregnant.

I realize it's in the heat of the moment but if you think going raw is some sort of rite of passage that makes you more of a man than those who wrap up, have fun
 

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Guys don't get HIV from females. Just saying. The odds are a zillion to one. But, Americans also believe that soldiers protect them from evil people and that Iraq had nuclear bombs. Go figure.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bible_Belt

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BigJimbo said:
Guys don't get HIV from females. Just saying. The odds are a zillion to one.
Jimbo's right. Even among married couples in Africa where the woman is HIV+ and the man is negative, and they never use condoms, the rate of transmission is very low, about 1% chance per year. But if the US government told you that, no one would wear condoms, and syphilis and the clap would be rampant like they used to be.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Jimbo's right. Even among married couples in Africa where the woman is HIV+ and the man is negative, and they never use condoms, the rate of transmission is very low, about 1% chance per year. But if the US government told you that, no one would wear condoms, and syphilis and the clap would be rampant like they used to be.
I never knew that. Very interesting. Married couple and the guy is negative but never uses a condom and transmission is very low?

I was hoping for some real honest answers by more posters.

For myself I believe it's 12 women without condom, and thankfully I'm still negative. None of the women were hookers or drug users.
 

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I unloaded plenty of times without a condom with this one girl. She said she could still smell me when she pee'd the next morning. :D We were in a steady relationship. It felt good. She was on the pill. No STD's and no kids. :woo:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I had one GF that was infertile (legit, saw her med records) and she was clean, so I went to town on her without condom. Sort of knew it wouldn't work out because of her infertility (dealbreaker for me, tried to get passed it)
 

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perseverance said:
As someone who is about to embark on a Military career, I wouldn't go into battle without a helmet and there is no way I'm having sex without a rubber.
But you do realize that a helmet is only a token protection (sorry) and that some of the nastiest STDs (herpes is a big one) you can also get while using a condom right?

perseverance said:
in relationships I refuse to have sex without a condom. I just won't allow it to happen.
it just makes me sad to read that... Not saying you have to be as irresponsible as I've been at times (lucky to be clean though) but if you're using condoms in a relationship you're really missing out on half the fun. I don't care what nobody says, sex with a condom is like eating a candy with the wrapper on, only half the fun.
 

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In the words of the late and great comedian Sam Kinison:

"If you don't trust the pvssy, then why are you fvcking the pvssy?????"
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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