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"how many girls have you had sex with?" whats the answer in diff scenarios

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okay look, I know this might be a stupid question, but I'd really just appreciate honest answers without any references to how stupid this question may be. so with that said...

I'm gonna have different scenarios, all with one girl and one guy... let's pretend I am the guy and the girl is some girl.

IF:

If I am 18 and she is 25, and I have only had sex with 1 girl and she has had sex with lots of guys, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

If I am 18 and she is 25, and I have had sex with lots of girls and she has only had sex with 1 guy, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or lie and say just 1?

If I am 18 and she is 25, and we both have only had sex with 1 person, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

If I am 18 and she is 25, and we both have had sex with lots of people, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or should I lie and say just 1?

now I'm gonna just switch ages...

If I am 25 and she is 18, and I have only had sex with 1 girl and she has had sex with lots of guys, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

If I am 25 and she is 18, and I have had sex with lots of girls and she has only had sex with 1 guy, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or lie and say just 1?

If I am 25 and she is 18, and we both have only had sex with 1 person, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

If I am 25 and she is 18, and we both have had sex with lots of people, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or should I lie and say just 1?
 

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So, basicly your question is.. What to say when a girl asks how many girls you had sex with. You got different scenarios but, with the same question. So, lets keep it simple.

Either you can lie or tell her the truth.

You can say you don't kiss and tell. You can say a few. You can say too many to remember.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
So, basicly your question is.. What to say when a girl asks how many girls you had sex with. You got different scenarios but, with the same question. So, lets keep it simple.

Either you can lie or tell her the truth.

You can say you don't kiss and tell. You can say a few. You can say too many to remember.
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well i know that in any of those situations you COULD do this or you COULD do that but what SHOULD you do in any of those situations?
 
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FBA808 said:
well i know that in any of those situations you COULD do this or you COULD do that but what SHOULD you do in any of those situations?
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You should do whatever you think you should do. If you wanna tell her, do it, if not, dont.
 
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The last time I was asked how many girls I slept with, I said "a million"

It raised her interest. Don't worry about telling her the truth. Tell her whatever will raise her interest.
 

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I think a more important scenario detail you missed is the relationship between the girl and the guy.

If its a ONS, say whatever the hell you want.

If its a **** buddy, you can probably tell the truth if its a lot (since they obviously aren't too hung up on sex, being **** buddies and all) or exaggerate if its a small number, or really say what you want.

If it's a long term relationship, you should probably tell the truth because odds are it will come out at some point, and the other person would probably not be too happy to find out you slept around a LOT if you claimed to be practically a virgin, or vice versa.
 
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FBA808 said:
okay look, I know this might be a stupid question, but I'd really just appreciate honest answers without any references to how stupid this question may be. so with that said...

I'm gonna have different scenarios, all with one girl and one guy... let's pretend I am the guy and the girl is some girl.

IF:

If I am 18 and she is 25, and I have only had sex with 1 girl and she has had sex with lots of guys, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

If I am 18 and she is 25, and I have had sex with lots of girls and she has only had sex with 1 guy, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or lie and say just 1?

If I am 18 and she is 25, and we both have only had sex with 1 person, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

If I am 18 and she is 25, and we both have had sex with lots of people, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or should I lie and say just 1?

You are 25. What are talking about "If I am 18?" You have time machine in your backyard?

If I am 25 and she is 18, and I have only had sex with 1 girl and she has had sex with lots of guys, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

Tell her the truth.

If I am 25 and she is 18, and I have had sex with lots of girls and she has only had sex with 1 guy, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or lie and say just 1?

Tell her the truth.

If I am 25 and she is 18, and we both have only had sex with 1 person, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (1) or lie and say more?

Tell her the truth.

If I am 25 and she is 18, and we both have had sex with lots of people, and she asks me "how many girls have you had sex with?" what should I answer? the truth (lots) or should I lie and say just 1?

Tell her the truth.
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What if you lie and your friends tell her the truth? What if you lie and she finds out from your ex-girlfriends? What if you lie and she can tell you don't what you are doing in bed?

Of course, if you looking for a ONS, do whatever you want to get into her pants.
 
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just say "ya know i dont really keep track of that kinda stuff and i dont expect you to either."
 
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A knowing smile and "a gentleman never tells" is the correct response to all the above scenarios, followed by a quick chage of subject.
 
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Just say something that shows you are genuine. Like "I don't wear the number like a badge"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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