You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Gotta disagree with you on this one; Grad level stats class here behind my belt too.Rollo Tomassi said:41-70 was my count, but bear in mind that you're going to skew your results with 30 point jumps like this. You've got a 20 point jump between 21-40 and the higher you go, the bigger the statistical variance. I understand your logic, but you might want to rethink your ranges. My actual tally is 43 (or at least thats where I lose count), but there's a whole world of difference between that and 70 partners. Also, age is going to statistically skew your results too.
Quality over quantity? That doesn't really apply here. The idea of this place is to enable men to be sexually satisfied. You can either be satisfied by being in a LTR or simply dating around.Broham said:This is the dumbest poll ever.
What ever happened to quality over quantity?
Numbers mean sh*t if most of your lays are hb1-5, unless you find Dorito rolls and lazy eyes attractive.
I bet the numbers would be much lower if the criteria was hb7+.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I also voted "0". Couldn't help myself...penkitten said:sadly, i voted zero for a good excuse.
# of lays is like bench, people always round upMavrick said:It's about the quality of women you are obtaining, not the quantity.
I've got quantity, but yet to find quality.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thats basically what I said in the first page.MacAvoy said:I honestly don't know. I stopped trying to count at 30. I stopped counting because I realized that it was just a stupid number and made no impact on my life. I honestly have no clue where I am at. By the time I got that far, I had enough skills that it didn't matter.
LOL quoting myselfMaxtro said:Going back to my earlier point. Once a man has hit 20 he pretty much knows what he is doing. The only thing preventing himself from getting more women is a lack of desire. If he wanted to have a high body count, the he would, obviously it is not his skills or lack thereof that is holding him back.
I come from the same school of thought. I value my privacy to the nth degreee.guru1000 said:I refuse to answer on grounds that one day it might become incriminating.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
My thoughts exactly.Maxtro said:LOL what are you guys afraid of? That somehow somebody will figure out who you are by your handle? Then they somehow figure out what vote you picked from an anonymous poll? And even if all that happened how can you be incriminated?
"Honey, I found out"
"Found what out"
'When you told me that you were only with 3 girls, you lied to me"
"Huh what"
"I hacked the Sosuave board and found out that you voted that you were with 40-50 women. I hate you!"
"Curse you Sosuave and your polls! If only I hadn't voted!"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.