after they broke up with u and u found out they cheated on u. do they contact you afterward to say sorry or they just never contact u again? and if they do how long it took them to say sorry or wutever. do they usually talk to u after they break up with the other guy or the guy dumps her?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
how many ex gf have contacted you back after cheating on u?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Does it get any sadder than this? This is a hall of famer.pacman254 said:
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I was thinking the same thing. Pacman, (sigh), when a female cheats on you, that is the ULTIMATE sign of disrespect. You need to move on, dude. It is natural for women to want to keep you dangling on a string just to make sure she "has" you. But in most cases, it is not genuine. The minute you give in, she will bang him (or "them") again.( . )( . ) said:Does it get any sadder than this? This is a hall of famer.
Be strong. Be a man. Move on and get more AND BETTER women.
I can think of two who did.pacman254 said:
The first was some years after the event. I'd not spoken to her or seen more than a passing glance of her since. In fact I barely recognised her (She had bloated!) She turned up on my doorstep out of the blue with her fiancee. I was introduced, we chatted a bit and I invited them in. Whilst I was making them coffee she came through to the kitchen, and told me she had always regretted our "breaking-up," hugged me and asked if we could still "have something" together. I didn't need to pause for thought and had no qualms at all about saying - no-way!
The other was more difficult. This was my ex-fiancee, she had a breakdown and got into a mass of self-destructive behaviour. To the point where she told me she'd been cheating on me and I said I'd had enough, packed-up and left. We were living together but thankfully I'd not quite given-up my own house, so at least I had somewhere to go! A couple of weeks later, my housephone rang and a whimpering voice on the line said "can I come home now" - So I said yes. She was in a bad way psychologically but seemed to stabilise over the next few days & started seeing her medics, so I let her stay. Then she rallied and became like her old (good) self again, became very apologetic and I made the mistake of agreeing to give it another go. So we cleaned-up the flat and moved back. That lasted just a few months before her troubles started and she really made a mess of herself. There was no going back for me now but within a few weeks she was sending me letters and calling again, so because of her illness and her eventually moving to another town (she stayed a few nights in this period but always got the spare bed), I remained in touch for a few more months and visited regularly. As much for her parents benifit and to try to keep on top of the financial mess she had left us in. Eventually she found some other mug to so I stopped and didn't pick-up/reply any more. I hear occasionally about how she is now and sometimes see her about but I've only once been face to face with her - I just smiled, said hello and walked-on.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've never had one ADMIT it. Well, as far as I know, only my BPD ex has cheated on me, and she will deny it to the grave, despite witnesses, and other overwhelming evidence. She apologized for everything else though, including stuff she 'wishes she could tell me, but can't.' Wonder what THAT could be?
I've been cheated on a couple times, and the only one i still talk to i hardly even see. After she cheated a cussed her out, called her a *****, and we HATED each other. Then after a couple years we started talking again cuz it's not something i give a fvck about anymore. Just move on.