"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How many days do you usually wait between
- Thread starter bobbob
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
That works sometimes, but it's also a good idea to wait a little while. During the date, even if it's at the end of the date. She may not be exactly sure how she is feeling towards you. But that night, after sharing everything that happened with her roommate, she'll have time to think about you, and usually the il will go up. Plus, she'll will wondering/hoping for the next few days whether or not you'll call her for another day. I'm not just spouting this off, it's actually a psychological concept.
Everyone waits a couple of days. It is industrial standard
So she won't be wondering/hoping. Instead, if she is a true HB, she would fill her time in with other guys. Someone could be boning your HB whilst you are sitting at home "waiting" it out.During the date, even if it's at the end of the date. She may not be exactly sure how she is feeling towards you.
Then obviously you haven't done your job properly. That happens to everyone. Why not test how you went by securing another activity during the date? If she umms and arrs then you know how to approach the phone call next time and work out what you have to do to raise her interest again.
I'm not just spouting this off, it's actually field tested
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Oh, I didn't block my caller ID either time either ... should I even bother to call tomorrow, or will that just look desperate?
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