She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
mikeyb said:4% body fat?? There are olympic sprinters with higher bf - most of them actually. Either you're a freak of nature or you're chronically malnourished. I'd start eating more if I were you, that low bf is unhealthy.
To answer the OP, the Harris-Benedict equation says 2094 (assuming you don't exercise), but that's obviously a rough estimate.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hahablinkwatt101 said:Nope you can hold 6% year round and lose 1-2% bodyfat within 24-48 hours if need be. Just hold off on water,eat very small meals the night before. Only eat breakfast the next day. I don't recommend doing it often though.
Dude everyone can. Hell I've seen people gain more muscle then me while staying just as lean as me. It's just a matter of wanting it. I live by all the advice I post here,I've never advise on something I know doesn't work or don't like.Quiksilver said:haha
dude just because you can do that doesn't mean everyone else can.
Dude you may laugh at it. But I PROMISE you that you've never gone to the gym 3 years straight,giving everything you have 6 days a week. **** I've been laughed at by some of my own friends for how freakin hard and intense I lift. I turn pure red and starting to develop a small grunt on some lifts. It's all about how bad you want it.Kerpal said:^ :crackup:
I don't risk deadlifting. I'm very much into squatting as my main source for punishing my legs. I do straight leg dead lifts occasionally though.Kerpal said:How much do you deadlift?
Is just silly. I know for a fact(I've been there/done that) that personally I cannot hold a bodyfat percentage of under 8% and continue to put on good muscle. Just to get down to 8'ish% from 12% took me 6 months of serious dedication. And by serious I mean almost a neurotic obsession."Dude everyone can. Hell I've seen people gain more muscle then me while staying just as lean as me. It's just a matter of wanting it. I live by all the advice I post here,I've never advise on something I know doesn't work or don't like.
Think about it, I had to learn from someone right? The dude who advise me is in better shape and controls his bodyfat even better then I can. It's all about experience and wanting it more."
You're advising us to take advice from people who are exceptions to the rule. For every person like you described above, there are ten who put in just as much dedication and effort and get half the results.Dude everyone can. Hell I've seen people gain more muscle then me while staying just as lean as me. It's just a matter of wanting it. I live by all the advice I post here,I've never advise on something I know doesn't work or don't like.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You keep saying this about being dehydrated to lose body fat. What's the science behind this? Seems to me that you'd just lose water.blinkwatt101 said:Dude trust me,learn to dehydrate your system and I bet your bodyfat is a lot lower then you'd think.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No no I'm just saying that people's bodyfat tends to be lower then they assume...you can't truly see a difference between 10-6% until you dehydrated. To most it may just seem that abs looks better from that 4% but when dehydrated at 10% you just look slimmer but at 6% and below it's a whole new world,veins,muscle lacerations and separation,the muscles develop a more matured look and I think they drop some. At which point every little bit you eat shows and everything is either against or on your side.mikeyb said:You keep saying this about being dehydrated to lose body fat. What's the science behind this? Seems to me that you'd just lose water.
I've never found a more misleading concept,except for maybe calorie counting.Wynston said: