"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How long would you wait to call after a "semi" one night stand?

The_Reaper

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Meaning, you made out and slept together on a bed, but there was no sex.

I'm so used to hooking up with girls that I am hardly interested in, and only slightly attracted to. This is most certainly a self-esteem indicator, as I'm pretty much determined to avoid a relationship until I get some deep enough issues in my life resolved.

Anyway, on Saturday I met a girl outside a club, and I was blown away by her. I busted on her relentlessly, and got "social proofed" by some friends of mine there. I initially thought she was a bit nutty - and maybe she is.

We were both quite drunk, but coherent, articulate, and in a great mood. We were goofing around - I ended up carrying her on my shoulders half the way home...

We didn't have sex. We made out though, and she slept beside me. In the morning, there was actually no awkwardness. We walked to a nearby shop, having an interesting conversation, with plenty of laughs from her. She got a taxi, invited me back with her, saying it was to her brother's place. I made some excuse and didn't go.

She said "you better text me", with a smile and kiss.

Normally, I wouldnt call or text until about 3 or 4 days to a week later, but because she slept over (and we made out), maybe I should text her now (monday evening as I type).
I was gonna ask her if she's on MSN.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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theunflushables

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Call her and take her for coffee. Don't text her to see if she has msn. Or go play in the snow or something.

How can you truly get to know someone through a computer?
 
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My first thought was to question why there was no sex. Why do you guys do that on this board?

We need to get back to old fashioned boning women instead of making out and giving up and falling asleep.

Call the girl the next day is what I would do. I have never believed in that pua crap of waiting 2 weeks 3 days 7 hours 55 minutes and 23 seconds.
 

Ganondorf

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Call the next day

call when ever you want. it makes no difference

There is no time frame. do you honestly think women sit and count the days you wait to call to see if you are "man" enough to be with her?

besides, waiting to long will give her the indication that you're playing games and or do not care
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BustedKnucks

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I go with 2 days most of the time. It's not long enough where they think you are playing them, but you make them wait enough to get nervous that you just MIGHT not call back. No matter how much you're into a broad, she has to at least feel like she's the one that needs to earn you're attention, never vice-versa.
 
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