Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I like how you wrote this. Before and after reading Rollo's book.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think we’ve all done that stuff many times. Maybe not everything on that list (never gave money to a bum while on a date) but I’ve done a lot of the other stuff. My last oneitis also fvcked some dude, at first it made me feel like ****, but now I laugh about it because the guy was like late 30’s and wore his hats backwards. It’s like he was trying to be 20 again. It also made me kick myself in the ass for chasing so hard after a low class woman if that guy met her standards. She tried to get in contact with me a few years later, she got told to basically fvck off.
No!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
With or without contact all these years?
No contact most of the time on her side.
how long did you guys go out for?
We just went out a couple of times but after the first time we went out, she was #1 on my high score list, and she's been there ever since
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Relatable. Tomorrow would be 2 months no contact. I still think about her daily. Thoughts interrupt me even during my workout... thinking about how there's nothing to do during Quarantine and she's barebacking this new guy day and night.
I am looking forward to this day. I really am.